MEN AND SEXUALITY…
I have been doing some reading and research on dating, players, sex, love, romance and more. I found this at Ask Men.com, and thought it was worth some discussion, as it is one of those statements which makes you think…
“Men often have sex to feel wanted. Granted, it’s hard to accept that he’s really after affection when he has one hand up your sweater and the other diving down your skirt. But it’s true. Sex for a man appears to be his primal form of giving; it’s one way for him to feel accepted both physically and emotionally. Because some men still aren’t as verbose or as comfortable with expressing emotion as women are, sex tends to be used as a means of showing his love and feeling close to you. If he really wants to say “I love you,” he may suggest sex. So basically, when you reject sex with him, you’re not just rejecting the sex. Adopt a new philosophy: When you say no, tell him when you want to have sex instead. And always make it clear you’re just saying no to sex — not to a cuddle or to a cozy chat.”
This is very interesting and true. Men are way less expressive than women, and, do use body ‘talk’ to make their point,it is a way for them to secure a bond with a woman. It is also a way for them to show a woman their skills as a lover, and their masculinity; it makes them feel strong, desirable, plus, it gives them more confidence when they can seduce a woman, especially if it is a woman they care about winning over…
After they have succeeded, more of their interior personality will come forth, as, it is then easier for them to open up because the deal has been struck, so to speak, the bond has been set. Of course, this all depends on the man’s primary motives. If he is a player, the extent of his opening up will be limited. If he is interested in you for more than play, he will gradually reveal his inner self more and more, and with each sexual encounter, he will feel more comfortable doing so…
It is true what the author says about rejection and using the approach of letting them know that you are not refusing sex totally, it is just a temporary thing, as, it works wonders, especially if he is genuinely interested in you. He may ask why, or he may pout, men are very good at pouting when they are left high and dry, but, if you handle it well, and assure him that you are interested, but would rather wait, chances are he will be fine with that, though, seriously, he will not stop trying even as he exits through the door. Hahaha….
Men have wonderful, caring, personalities. They are not really so different from women, their tactics, techniques, and thought patterns are what make them seem so hard to reach, but, truly, they are so much like women, it would probably scare a lot of guys to realize this fact. It is all perceptual, for either person, or for both. If a woman really believes that men are way different, then that is how she will treat him, and how he will react, for deep inside, he already knows that there is not that much difference, and he will feel inferior to the fact that she insists that he is from Mars…
