THE GRASS ISN’T GREENER, THE MANURE IS FRESHER…
There are a lot of men out there who are spending way too much time making comparisons between their woman and those who are available, often, using this method to make their woman do that which they want them to do. This is so wrong, so childish, and can make a woman feel as if she is not worthy in most respects…
I can understand that men want to see beautiful women, sexy women, and totally confident women, but, if you are married, or are in a relationship, there must have been something about the woman you are with else why are you with her? Look, if you need to have more pizazz to your relationship, talking it over works wonders; you don’t need to make someone feel less than desirable or out of place to get what you want. Honesty and sharing go a long, long way…
True, too many women do not care for themselves as much when they are comfortable in a relationship, still, that does not mean that a man has the right to make her feel as if she is unattractive, unexciting, unlovable. She might just need to hear what would make you happy, perhaps you need to initiate the change by buying her things which will dress her up, inspire her, or make her understand what it is you need. Granted, these subjects are often difficult to discuss, but, if you care for someone, discussion is the most adult way to handle that which creates wedges in a relationship…
Women are often misinformed about their role as wife, Mother, significant other; too often they have been raised that if you are a wife, Mother, or whatever; once you take on this role, you no longer have to try to impress. This is not their fault, it is the fault of social upbringing, and should be eradicated. Some women know intrinsically that remaining sexy, hot, and intriguing is the way to keep a man’s interest, but, most are raised believing that once you are in a marriage/relationship, he should be interested, else why did he commit?
Instead of men blaming and distributing guilt, ill-feelings, hurt, and shame, they need to take time to try to discuss such things. Instead of withdrawing to a fantasy world, give her the chance to be your fantasy, help her along without demands, without comparison, without disregard for her role as your wife/woman/lover/friend…
Women over 30 should not compared to 17 and 18 year old girls! It is cruel, it is foolish, it is totally a waste of time. All women were once that young, that cute, that desirable, and as they grow older, they do not want to be reminded that those days are gone, they already know that, plus, any man worth his salt should see that aging does not mean that women are less, in fact, they are more. It is like this, it is easy to be ‘all that’ when you are young, but, if she can still look good beyond 30 and higher, that is truly, a beautiful woman! It is all perceptual, and yes, there is lots of good lookin’ babes out there, but, realize this, those babes are always what they seem, and, they might have nothing else to offer, so, you better take a good long look at what is attractive and realize just how great the wife/woman/lover/friend you have really is, as the grass on the other side is not always greener, though the manure might be fresher…
Always take your partners feelings into consideration before you open your mouth, act, or react, it is the kindest thing you can do for them. And, if you have issues with any facet of them, try to discuss them on a mature and kind platform, you might be surprised at how effective this is. Also, if you would like your partner to change their appearance, help them along by purchasing that which you would like to see them in, it is not so hard to do, is it? Keep the outside world outside, and give the world in which you live the best of yourself, in honesty, fairness, compassion, consideration, respect, and genuine discussion of most things. No one deserves to be taunted for that which they do not understand, and so, if your partner does not seem to ‘get’ what you want or need, that is your own fault, for you are not grown enough to let them know…
Tags: love, marriage, relationships

