There are a lot of men out there who are spending way too much time making comparisons between their woman and those who are available, often, using this method to make their woman do that which they want them to do. This is so wrong, so childish, and can make a woman feel as if she is not worthy in most respects…

I can understand that men want to see beautiful women, sexy women, and totally confident women, but, if you are married, or are in a relationship, there must have been something about the woman you are with else why are you with her? Look, if you need to have more pizazz to your relationship, talking it over works wonders; you don’t need to make someone feel less than desirable or out of place to get what you want. Honesty and sharing go a long, long way…

True, too many women do not care for themselves as much when they are comfortable in a relationship, still, that does not mean that a man has the right to make her feel as if she is unattractive, unexciting, unlovable. She might just need to hear what would make you happy, perhaps you need to initiate the change by buying her things which will dress her up, inspire her, or make her understand what it is you need. Granted, these subjects are often difficult to discuss, but, if you care for someone, discussion is the most adult way to handle that which creates wedges in a relationship…

Women are often misinformed about their role as wife, Mother, significant other; too often they have been raised that if you are a wife, Mother, or whatever; once you take on this role, you no longer have to try to impress. This is not their fault, it is the fault of social upbringing, and should be eradicated. Some women know intrinsically that remaining sexy, hot, and intriguing is the way to keep a man’s interest, but, most are raised believing that once you are in a marriage/relationship, he should be interested, else why did he commit?

Instead of men blaming and distributing guilt, ill-feelings, hurt, and shame, they need to take time to try to discuss such things. Instead of withdrawing to a fantasy world, give her the chance to be your fantasy, help her along without demands, without comparison, without disregard for her role as your wife/woman/lover/friend…

Women over 30 should not compared to 17 and 18 year old girls! It is cruel, it is foolish, it is totally a waste of time. All women were once that young, that cute, that desirable, and as they grow older, they do not want to be reminded that those days are gone, they already know that, plus, any man worth his salt should see that aging does not mean that women are less, in fact, they are more. It is like this, it is easy to be ‘all that’ when you are young, but, if she can still look good beyond 30 and higher, that is truly, a beautiful woman! It is all perceptual, and yes, there is lots of good lookin’ babes out there, but, realize this, those babes are always what they seem, and, they might have nothing else to offer, so, you better take a good long look at what is attractive and realize just how great the wife/woman/lover/friend you have really is, as the grass on the other side is not always greener, though the manure might be fresher…

Always take your partners feelings into consideration before you open your mouth, act, or react, it is the kindest thing you can do for them. And, if you have issues with any facet of them, try to discuss them on a mature and kind platform, you might be surprised at how effective this is. Also, if you would like your partner to change their appearance, help them along by purchasing that which you would like to see them in, it is not so hard to do, is it? Keep the outside world outside, and give the world in which you live the best of yourself, in honesty, fairness, compassion, consideration, respect, and genuine discussion of most things. No one deserves to be taunted for that which they do not understand, and so, if your partner does not seem to ‘get’ what you want or need, that is your own fault, for you are not grown enough to let them know…

Couples should be sincerely good to each other. There should always be the element of the most honest kindness, through every moment of life. Why wouldn’t you be kind to the one you say you love? I find this very curious. I see couples who are supposedly so in love and one or the other is mean to the other, often without even thinking about their actions… I remember such a relationship with someone, and I always asked him why he was so nice to everyone else, but, when it came to me he was short, harsh, and rude. He told me that he was as nice to me as he was anyone else. Needless to say, our relationship went like the water of a flood..

When we live with someone and profess love, it would only seem right that they are the most important person in our lives, and that they should be held in high esteem. They should be treated as a best friend, a favored companion, a sexy partner. They should not have to bear being treated like an object, or as a possession, or as less than their worth…

This partly happens because people take each other for granted, which is never a good thing. Life is so unpredictable, you just never know what is around the corner, you never know when it will change dramatically, which
might mean that this one person could be all you have left, or even worse, that they might not be around. So, always consider that they ARE imperative to your life, else why are they there???

Love and love making should be an effort by both partners, that it is an ongoing investment in the relationship. It should be maintained, that it is exciting, hot, anticipated, embraced and cherished at all times. It should not live merely beneath the silk, it should over flow into your daily lives. You should each care that your partner is happy, satisfied, and smiling when they think of you, look at you, or touch you. There is no greater reward than to have a thriving, evolving, ever growing relationship with the person who at one time, you swore to love, and said you could not live without…

Kindness, respect, genuine sharing, caring, and consideration for each other at all times leads two to becoming ecstatic in love and life. Success in life, love and growth depends on our home lives to a great degree. Let me put it this way, when all is smooth and happy at home, it is much easier to progress in the world, for your mind, spirit, and body are free of tension, dissention, and wasted negativity.

When we are happy, we are more receptive to life and its elements, when we are more receptive, we are more open, when we are more open, the options before us are limitless. Our love, the one we chose to love, deserves the best of us, in all facets, and at all times. As we develop more and more in love, the successes in our lives multiply, as we compliment each others live more, we are filled with the rewards of having it all, and, as two become one, isn’t that the ultimate expectation of the experience???

Lingerie has a world of its own, filled with inviting, intriguing, and interesting designs and styles to enhance our lives, especially our love lives, although, that is not necessarily so, as, I, without or with a partner, still love to wear lingerie. I love the materials, the feel, the softness, the drama, the cut, style, design, and the intent behind lingerie. It makes me feel better all the way around, and, it makes the nights seem much more interesting…

There are so many lingerie manufactures, distributors, companies, stores, and other dealers, that it makes one wonder why there is still some embarrassment or secrecy about the love of lingerie. There are hundreds of thousands of lingerie styles, from soft and sexy to blatant and even violent. Each person has their own idea of what lingerie is, and, each has their own liking when it comes to style and design. Some like very feminine pieces, though many like leather and vinyl. It is one of the most individualist areas of attire ever…

Lingerie companies have expanded beyond lingerie, offering accessories, toys, enhancement products and much more. Each company has its own signature specialty, some cater to career women and men, some to the young, some to the kinky, some to the inhibited, some to role actors/actresses, some to undergarments, and so on, though most carry a bit more than they had originally decided to carry; which is necessary to keep up with the changing public and their tastes…

Lingerie parties, sex toy parties and/or lovers accessory parties, are becoming mainstream. Even some of the most conservative people in the world are attending or holding such parties. Sex sells? Sure it does, but, is that the underlying trend? I think that it is a matter of couples taking the responsibility to keep their relationships fresh and exciting; instead of losing one another to outside fantasies, they are making every effort to keep their passions hot and continuing, which is great news, for many aspects of life, and for the lingerie industry…

From Tupperware parties, to candle parties, and now to adult themed parties, the world has evolved, eh? I was talking to a lady the other day, and discovered that she loves adult themed parties, seems her and her girlfriends have them frequently. I was surprised as I had always viewed her as a huge conservative, but, I was pleased too, for I realized that hey, everyone is getting into the game of keeping romance alive and well, and, that is a good thing indeed…

Where I live, over a quarter of a million women in the past several years have taken stripping lessons from professional strippers, all in hopes of keeping their spouses at home instead of in the clubs. Strip clubs are extremely inhabited here, and, lots of women are at their wits end because of it, and so, one of the radio stations, which started as a sort of joke, got this learn to strip thing going, and wow!, it is so popular; so many women are signed up there is a huge waiting list. Mostly it is to learn pole dancing, but, they learn much more along the way. So, you see, there is effort ongoing to keep love and romance in the boundaries of the home, and, in doing so, there are some valuable lessons being learned, as well as some very pleasantly surprised partners seeing a side of their women which they never knew existed. That is what it is all about, going to the limits to keep love interesting, sensuous, and fulfilled