Life is short, unpredictable, eventful, uncharted, and totally happens as it will. This means that we should not get too comfortable, complacent, or take it for granted, for we know not what lies ahead, no matter how invincible we have convinced ourselves we are…

There is much to be said on the subject of appreciating life, people, and what you have, but, today, we will merely touch on segments of this vast discussion. I think that we need constant reminders besides losing someone to keep us on course, and in gratitude for those in our lives. When we learn to appreciate through loss, often it is too late, and we have ignored certain obligations to those whom we have lost, but, if we can learn to embrace each day, each person in our life in the now, in real time, then when loss does occur, then we might be more accepting, and certainly more comfortable in the healing process…

Each day we should start the day by letting those in our homes know how much we love them, before we go our separate ways. And in the course of the day, we should let those near us see the best of our character and personality, for it is really not fair that they should have to deal with more than an occasional outburst, or other forms of bad behavior. Those we work with, those we play with, those we love, should only get the best of us…

Yes, we all have our moments of bad behavior, but, if we TRY, we can lessen these times, and lessen the impact. Too many people lash out all day long, taking their personal problems, impatience, and selfishness out on others, making everyone who comes into their contact suffer. You see it is like a domino effect; Joe wakes up crabby, brushes off his family, goes to the office and begins the day by yelling at people, who then feel his harshness all day long, and they in turn, might lash out at someone else, and when they get home, they are irritable and high strung, which hurts the people closest to them. If we could simply TRY to remember that one bad word, one attitude which is sour, one action which is uncalled for, affects MANY people in the course of the day, week, month, or year, then perhaps we could control our moods a bit better…

Living with the best of yourself is an ongoing practice of control, attitude, and belief that positive mentality and actions reaps the most rewards. Negativity of any kind, does nothing more than produce more negativity, and we all know that negativity dwells within, often creating more unnecessary troubles. Positive mentality and action also creates a domino effect, an effect which produces good all the way around; it is fair, selfless, and considerate of other people, which breeds the same from those around us. It is true, you get what you give…

My people, that is those around me, closest to me or not, deserve much better than a snotty, self consumed, irrational attitude and behavior from me, and I tell you, I certainly TRY to remember this at all times. Yes, time has taught me this, mostly from being treated so badly at work, or from being around crabby, selfish people, but, I have indeed, learned…

Life is short, precious, and the time you spend with other people should be an overall representation of the kind of person you REALLY are, the kind of person that does not have to make amends or excuses for their behavior, for you TRY each day to put the best of you forward that all in the world might embrace the person you are from deep inside…

There are a lot of men out there who are spending way too much time making comparisons between their woman and those who are available, often, using this method to make their woman do that which they want them to do. This is so wrong, so childish, and can make a woman feel as if she is not worthy in most respects…

I can understand that men want to see beautiful women, sexy women, and totally confident women, but, if you are married, or are in a relationship, there must have been something about the woman you are with else why are you with her? Look, if you need to have more pizazz to your relationship, talking it over works wonders; you don’t need to make someone feel less than desirable or out of place to get what you want. Honesty and sharing go a long, long way…

True, too many women do not care for themselves as much when they are comfortable in a relationship, still, that does not mean that a man has the right to make her feel as if she is unattractive, unexciting, unlovable. She might just need to hear what would make you happy, perhaps you need to initiate the change by buying her things which will dress her up, inspire her, or make her understand what it is you need. Granted, these subjects are often difficult to discuss, but, if you care for someone, discussion is the most adult way to handle that which creates wedges in a relationship…

Women are often misinformed about their role as wife, Mother, significant other; too often they have been raised that if you are a wife, Mother, or whatever; once you take on this role, you no longer have to try to impress. This is not their fault, it is the fault of social upbringing, and should be eradicated. Some women know intrinsically that remaining sexy, hot, and intriguing is the way to keep a man’s interest, but, most are raised believing that once you are in a marriage/relationship, he should be interested, else why did he commit?

Instead of men blaming and distributing guilt, ill-feelings, hurt, and shame, they need to take time to try to discuss such things. Instead of withdrawing to a fantasy world, give her the chance to be your fantasy, help her along without demands, without comparison, without disregard for her role as your wife/woman/lover/friend…

Women over 30 should not compared to 17 and 18 year old girls! It is cruel, it is foolish, it is totally a waste of time. All women were once that young, that cute, that desirable, and as they grow older, they do not want to be reminded that those days are gone, they already know that, plus, any man worth his salt should see that aging does not mean that women are less, in fact, they are more. It is like this, it is easy to be ‘all that’ when you are young, but, if she can still look good beyond 30 and higher, that is truly, a beautiful woman! It is all perceptual, and yes, there is lots of good lookin’ babes out there, but, realize this, those babes are always what they seem, and, they might have nothing else to offer, so, you better take a good long look at what is attractive and realize just how great the wife/woman/lover/friend you have really is, as the grass on the other side is not always greener, though the manure might be fresher…

Always take your partners feelings into consideration before you open your mouth, act, or react, it is the kindest thing you can do for them. And, if you have issues with any facet of them, try to discuss them on a mature and kind platform, you might be surprised at how effective this is. Also, if you would like your partner to change their appearance, help them along by purchasing that which you would like to see them in, it is not so hard to do, is it? Keep the outside world outside, and give the world in which you live the best of yourself, in honesty, fairness, compassion, consideration, respect, and genuine discussion of most things. No one deserves to be taunted for that which they do not understand, and so, if your partner does not seem to ‘get’ what you want or need, that is your own fault, for you are not grown enough to let them know…

I have been doing some reading and research on dating, players, sex, love, romance and more. I found this at Ask Men.com, and thought it was worth some discussion, as it is one of those statements which makes you think…

“Men often have sex to feel wanted. Granted, it’s hard to accept that he’s really after affection when he has one hand up your sweater and the other diving down your skirt. But it’s true. Sex for a man appears to be his primal form of giving; it’s one way for him to feel accepted both physically and emotionally. Because some men still aren’t as verbose or as comfortable with expressing emotion as women are, sex tends to be used as a means of showing his love and feeling close to you. If he really wants to say “I love you,” he may suggest sex. So basically, when you reject sex with him, you’re not just rejecting the sex. Adopt a new philosophy: When you say no, tell him when you want to have sex instead. And always make it clear you’re just saying no to sex — not to a cuddle or to a cozy chat.”

This is very interesting and true. Men are way less expressive than women, and, do use body ‘talk’ to make their point,it is a way for them to secure a bond with a woman. It is also a way for them to show a woman their skills as a lover, and their masculinity; it makes them feel strong, desirable, plus, it gives them more confidence when they can seduce a woman, especially if it is a woman they care about winning over…

After they have succeeded, more of their interior personality will come forth, as, it is then easier for them to open up because the deal has been struck, so to speak, the bond has been set. Of course, this all depends on the man’s primary motives. If he is a player, the extent of his opening up will be limited. If he is interested in you for more than play, he will gradually reveal his inner self more and more, and with each sexual encounter, he will feel more comfortable doing so…

It is true what the author says about rejection and using the approach of letting them know that you are not refusing sex totally, it is just a temporary thing, as, it works wonders, especially if he is genuinely interested in you. He may ask why, or he may pout, men are very good at pouting when they are left high and dry, but, if you handle it well, and assure him that you are interested, but would rather wait, chances are he will be fine with that, though, seriously, he will not stop trying even as he exits through the door. Hahaha….

Men have wonderful, caring, personalities. They are not really so different from women, their tactics, techniques, and thought patterns are what make them seem so hard to reach, but, truly, they are so much like women, it would probably scare a lot of guys to realize this fact. It is all perceptual, for either person, or for both. If a woman really believes that men are way different, then that is how she will treat him, and how he will react, for deep inside, he already knows that there is not that much difference, and he will feel inferior to the fact that she insists that he is from Mars…

Sex or making love? Lust or passion? Can they be the same thing? Of course, within the boundaries of a relationship, yes! With someone new or a one night stand, we pretty much know the answer, although, if it is like meant to be, or love at first sight, then it could still be possible to have all 4…

Sex is sex, but making love is sex personified. Lust is a great motivator, but passion is the euphoric high before, during, and after the fact. Passion, like love, has many facets and is a necessary emotion to have and to develop. Some are more passionate than others, for instance, the Italians, the Greeks, and even some European cultures are very ingrained with the passions of life, love and liberty…

I am very passionate, I have been all of my life, and have embraced its purpose for the long haul. Passion can create problems as well as pleasure, for passions run deep, and often bear the head of temper, though, that is just how it appears, still passionate people are moved to expression very easily and if compelled, it could very well be temper.

Passion is the melody and beat of music, the fine strokes of the painters brush, the flowing words of a writer, the sultry dance of the dancer, and the soft sounds of a lover…

Passion is about feeling, expressing, living. It is the full throttle experience, it is the essence of the experience itself, often felt prior to the experience. Passion is a very deep and winding emotion, which begins at the soul and is not satisfied until it has landed in the depths of another soul. Passion is inflamed with delivery, with purpose, with exactness of the feelings which drive it….

I often wonder what makes some so passionate and others so passive. It seems to me that everyone should possess passion in the highest forms for it is the gifter of all pleasure, the creator of the full experience of life, love, and liberty, indeed…

I so love being a woman. There are so many factors to being a woman which are simply wonderful. While men are my favorite beings, they are less complex than we women. They might have some complexities of character or personality, but, basically, they are what they are; like what you see is mostly what you get. You can make a man look a bit different here and there, with certain clothes, etc., but, they are not so mysteriously transformed as a woman can be…

Take hair, makeup, clothes, lingerie, and other such dressings for women. We can easily transform from being wife, Mother, housewife, career woman, or what have you, into a total diva, a dream come to life, a devastating and seductive stranger. We have at our convenience, the ability to totally transform our looks, our personality, our character, and, become whatever we, or our partner wants us to be. How cool is that?

Regardless of the woman, there are many women existing inside that persona waiting to exhale. There is the ability to entice in every woman, and, if she is encouraged to use it, watch out. Women are fabulous at role playing, once they get the gist of it, and, they often love the freedom of release…

I love being every woman within me. I am not too shy about letting them have their stage, for they each have something to lend to life, and often, there is a lesson or an encouraging facet coming of them. Each of these women, for the most part, are kept deep inside, for what reason, I have no idea, but, letting them come forth for an evening is like seeing yourself for the first time, and, since it is really you personified, it is a growth experience. It can be a great confidence builder, and, it can lift you when you are feeling less than exciting….

I have a bit of the movie star in me, and, I like it. I can play the highly acclaimed and rather spoiled actress so well. Perhaps it is from childhood fantasy, perhaps it is really a part of being a woman. I have been told often that I am intriguing and mysterious, and, I think that the reason is because of these characters who combine with my basic character, to make me appear as such. Perhaps it is because I Know for certain what I can accomplish in my role as devastator, or that I am comfortable with the many facets living within me, whatever it is, it allows for fun, adventure, and, certainly leaves them wanting for more…

Being a woman is indeed, a great thing to be. The men in my life have helped me to understand, embrace, and, flourish in this fact, and, I am so grateful that they realized before I did, what lived beneath the surface, and, allowed me to bring forth the wonderfully exciting temptresses which compose me as a whole… It has made me free to be, me…

Life is short, and, love is in that cycle, so, we must act out our fantasies. Well, the ones which won’t chase our love away…

What is your favorite fantasy? Myself, I have lived most of mine, but, I have one about living on a tropical island, where I am one of the only foreigners residing. I have a lovely beach house, about 20 feet from the end of the sand. I have helpers to maintain my home, all sexy, and, all men. They attend to my every need, though, I never take advantage of the fact that they would indeed, attend to my every whim. I have a lover who is kind, considerate, sweet, caring, and also attentive to my every need. He is rather tall, well tanned, kind of big, and very good looking in a boy next door kind of way. He is not too young, nor too old. He is mature, fun, and a great lover, and, he makes me crazy with his ways… I will leave the rest to imagination…

The point is, I could easily make this fantasy a reality, even if I cannot go and live on a tropical island. There are places right here in my own country that I could go to, which would be very close to paradise, and, I could act out the entire fantasy, if only for  a weekend. Ah, what a romantic weekend that would be…

It is important to share these fantasies with your lover, for, they most likely need to share theirs with you too. Then, you can determine ways to fulfill these fantasies, which will create romance, for it will be a shared experience which no other two on Earth have shared. It will be your secret meeting of the minds and body, which will surely further bond the soul…

Women fantasize all the time, but, men fantasize more, and, their fantasies are a bit easier to fulfill than that of women. So, if you can get your man to open up about his hidden desires, perhaps you can make him very happy by participating, and, making that dream come true, which means that you will be even closer than you were…

Of course, there are those fantasies which are beyond compromise. Many people have very far fetched fantasies, and, while, if both parties are agreed to try them out, they can often backfire on you. Sometimes if a couple acts out far fetched fantasies, there is resentment, regret, and other negatives, so, be sure to consider the extent of the fantasy before you agree to it…

There should be freedoms within a relationship which allow partners to share their deepest desires, and, to act them out. It gives romance a whole new level of excitement, and, truly creates hours of entertaining ideas before and after the actualization of fulfillment… Realities in fantasy are wonderful, for they no longer exist selfishly within, they have been shared by two whose love is boundless…

Too many people in relationships are always looking back. They should always look forward. While there are certain conditions which might create pain, hurt, suffering, and, resentment, if you decided to work it out, you should let that remain behind you like a shadow in the full sun…

Even people who haven’t had many problems along the way, remind each other of the things they feel were out of line, or upset them. It is like the negative is heavier than the positive, and, that is never good…

We should strive for positive thoughts and actions each day, and, this should definitely be a part of a love relationship. Love should be unconditional, however, that is not always the case, though we could try harder to be more tolerant of things which set us off. One thing is for sure, if you have a mate who knows how to trigger you, they will use that to their advantage when they feel the need to, and, we all know how that scenario winds up…

We all have faults, shortcomings, idiosyncrasies, bad habits, annoying quirks, and other human traits, but, if we love someone, we accept these in the onset, so, why not farther down the line? You accept the same in your relatives, or your children, so, why not with your partner?

Partner is a great word, which means one who shares something with another,a comrade, friend, consort, companion, mate, participant… We would do well to remember what partner means. I like participant as the best descriptive of the word, for we are participants in the commitment, in life, in love, and, in all aspects of each. One thing which should also be thought about is that each partner is an equal participant in our life. When we committed, we granted them that right, and, it should be honored, remembered, and, respected…

Keeping love alive involves multi faceted, multi tasking, management ingenuity. We should pour as much imagination, creativity, and, planning in our personal relationship as we do our projects, for these are the most important of life’s payoffs. A great relationship with your partner will outsource all of your brilliant endeavors outside the home, therefore, it should be attended to with at least that much skill, enthusiasm, and attention to detail as anything else we do…

Try to recall why you came to be. Remember that bond which brought your relationship into existence. Be good to each other. Be respectful, thoughtful, kind, compassionate, humorous, and adventurous. Forget the small stuff, leave the negative baggage in the past, which is just a moment before. Don’t sweat what is wrong, embrace what is right. Make each day end on a positive, loving note. Be happy to be, together. Look forward and never back for when you are always looking back, you are missing that which is wonderful now….

There was quite a bit of discussion over the World Wide Web during the Valentine’s week from men who feel that Valentine’s Day creates problems for them, and, I can certainly understand their feelings of pressure. According to some of the posts and articles I read, it seems that they HAD to please their women in the ways which SHE had decided were worthy. That is pretty one-sided, I would say…

As stated before, if a man does something which HE has decided on his own is a romantic gesture, that act should be appreciated. In fact, it should be even more appreciated than when a woman tells her man what she should get in the way of romantic notions, for he has taken the time to find some way to let them know that he is thinking of them…

Another thing which men voiced was that it seems that Valentine’s Day is only for women. Why is this? Who decided that it was a day for females? It is a day of love, romance, and, expression of such, so, why should it be singularly gender inclined? Makes no sense…

You see, these are the sort of issues which create troubles and problems in relationships, and, they are not fair issues; they are selfish issues, which means that one, or both, need to consider the other person as well. Love should be a give and take affair. It should be compassion, it should be respect, it should be appreciation, it should be a combination of the best of ourselves, that we gather the best from our partner. Does that make sense?

I live my love life not expecting. I give and then, if I receive, I appreciate. If I were to live in expectation, I would certainly be setting myself up for disappointment, for, often, the other person is not even aware of what I expect, still many people expect that their partner simply KNOW their expectations. This is so wrong, so not fair, so selfish….

Romantic gestures should be from the mind and heart of the giver. There should never be conditions on those gestures, and, regardless of how insignificant they might seem to you, they should be appreciated, and reciprocated with happiness and praise, because each of them, large or small, if added up through time, amount to a hell of a lot of love expressed…

I am amazed at how many people are uppity about lingerie, or, shy and bashful, or misunderstanding of lingerie companies. I have been finding out more and more how uptight most people are about lingerie and it’s dealers…

Some act like lingerie is disgusting. Pleeeeaassseee, what is disgusting about a beautiful person in a gorgeous gown, or chemise? Some act like they shouldn’t let others know that they find lingerie exciting. Whyyyyyyyyyy not? Some love lingerie. but, hide their feelings about it, and, never let anyone know how much they love it, order it, or wear it. What is up with this???

Myself, I adore lingerie. There are certain lingerie styles and accessories which do not appeal to me, but, hey, that is true with everything. I love looking like a sexy and seductive woman, for that is much a part of my personality. I adore being looked upon as a temptress, as sensuous and exciting, for that is what makes a relationship healthy and strong. I love the materials, the styles, the cut, the detail, the feminine edge to the kind of lingerie which I choose; ladylike, soft, sexy, and with an impact which can take the breath from a man. It is feeling of pure pleasure to see a man enthralled with me draped in beautiful, sheer or not, glamorous materials, which flow on my body, or hug to my curves, creating a much more enticing me…

Granted, there is hard core lingerie and accessories, but, that is a personal choice, and, from a business sense, a very profitable business it is. One has the choice of finding that which is true to their nature and lifestyle. If you are opposed to the harder elements of the lingerie industry, there are plenty of options available, which cater to personalities such as yours.

Lingerie is a wonderful part of life. It enhances, it creates allure, fantasy, and brings one into touch with their ’star’ side. When you allow yourself to become a character with each lingerie ensemble, you are releasing a side of you which is carefree, confident, and bewitching. Nothing spells romance better than a couple who can share their fantasies, or act out new ones which they have devised together. Nothing keeps a couple closer than those who are open to their sensuality; it is love personified, demystified, and, fully shared, and, from my stand point, it doesn’t get much better than that…

Then, there is the attitude one has which won’t allow them to experiment with the lovely choices of lingerie because they feel that it would not look good on them. Believe me, there are so many choices, that you will find plenty which will look great on you, and, age is no factor either, for you can find exquisite full coverage, if you feel that is the case. Besides that, your partner has already seen you as you are, but, have they seen you as a dramatic and devastating tease? You see what I mean?

Yes, lingerie is essential for many reasons, and, it is nothing to hide from. It is the silver lining in the black cloud of stagnation in a relationship. It is the spark of fire which keeps the love alive. It is the stuff which dreams are made of, and, of which dreams are kept alive. Lingerie is a statement of that which needs not be spoken, instead enjoyed by all involved…

Romance should live within the body, mind, and soul, as an intricate part of that which makes you whole. It should not be an effort which feels like work, rather, it should flow spontaneously and happily. It should be something which makes you feel good in knowing that you are making your partner feel good, and thus, making your relationship as good as it can be….Developing a romantic nature comes easily to some, but others are confounded by the idea of romance. This happens because they do not understand romance as a whole. Romance is nothing more than expression of deep love for another in a variety of ways, to ensure that the feeling and the spark between two will last and last and last…

Being a romantic means being soft, tender, attentive, creative, compassionate, caring, desirable, affectionate, resourceful, loving, and being able to share all the components of your internal being in ways which reinforce your feelings of love and passion…

Romantic gestures are often very small. They need not be exaggerated or persistent, though surely they should be consistent. A note expressing love, a flower or flowers, a shared bubble bath, a walk in the park, holding hands, gifts, tokens, remembered dates, dinner dates, nights out, shared fantasies, shared dreams, goals, and, ideas, warm, friendly embraces, drives to favorite places, romantic getaways, planned adventures of the mutual kind, simple gestures, such as breakfast in bed, favorite meals, movie nights, reading favorite material to one another, overall, sharing of the person within, deep within, with the complexities, needs, desires, ambitions, feelings, and, generosities of said person…

It is a person to person experience of sharing what and who we are, but, also, of being aware of who and what the other person is, that they are given that which allows them to flourish and be happy as much as is possible for anyone to be in life and love…

No, romance and romantic nature is not a difficult thing to acquire or accomplish. If it is left to flow through the course of a love bonded relationship, it is that which comes naturally, or should. When people make it complicated by applying pressure to what is, or what is not romantic, it can certainly feel like too much work for the effort, so, it is best to recognize romantic gestures, no matter how subtle, appreciate them, embrace them, and take them to heart, for each person is individual, and ones idea of romance is different from the others. If there is judgment involved, such as deciding if their effort was not enough, that can make romance less than enjoyable, and, certainly not what it was intended to be….