LIFE IS SHORT….
Life is short, unpredictable, eventful, uncharted, and totally happens as it will. This means that we should not get too comfortable, complacent, or take it for granted, for we know not what lies ahead, no matter how invincible we have convinced ourselves we are…
There is much to be said on the subject of appreciating life, people, and what you have, but, today, we will merely touch on segments of this vast discussion. I think that we need constant reminders besides losing someone to keep us on course, and in gratitude for those in our lives. When we learn to appreciate through loss, often it is too late, and we have ignored certain obligations to those whom we have lost, but, if we can learn to embrace each day, each person in our life in the now, in real time, then when loss does occur, then we might be more accepting, and certainly more comfortable in the healing process…
Each day we should start the day by letting those in our homes know how much we love them, before we go our separate ways. And in the course of the day, we should let those near us see the best of our character and personality, for it is really not fair that they should have to deal with more than an occasional outburst, or other forms of bad behavior. Those we work with, those we play with, those we love, should only get the best of us…
Yes, we all have our moments of bad behavior, but, if we TRY, we can lessen these times, and lessen the impact. Too many people lash out all day long, taking their personal problems, impatience, and selfishness out on others, making everyone who comes into their contact suffer. You see it is like a domino effect; Joe wakes up crabby, brushes off his family, goes to the office and begins the day by yelling at people, who then feel his harshness all day long, and they in turn, might lash out at someone else, and when they get home, they are irritable and high strung, which hurts the people closest to them. If we could simply TRY to remember that one bad word, one attitude which is sour, one action which is uncalled for, affects MANY people in the course of the day, week, month, or year, then perhaps we could control our moods a bit better…
Living with the best of yourself is an ongoing practice of control, attitude, and belief that positive mentality and actions reaps the most rewards. Negativity of any kind, does nothing more than produce more negativity, and we all know that negativity dwells within, often creating more unnecessary troubles. Positive mentality and action also creates a domino effect, an effect which produces good all the way around; it is fair, selfless, and considerate of other people, which breeds the same from those around us. It is true, you get what you give…
My people, that is those around me, closest to me or not, deserve much better than a snotty, self consumed, irrational attitude and behavior from me, and I tell you, I certainly TRY to remember this at all times. Yes, time has taught me this, mostly from being treated so badly at work, or from being around crabby, selfish people, but, I have indeed, learned…
Life is short, precious, and the time you spend with other people should be an overall representation of the kind of person you REALLY are, the kind of person that does not have to make amends or excuses for their behavior, for you TRY each day to put the best of you forward that all in the world might embrace the person you are from deep inside…
August 14th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
What a wonderful heart felt article that brought me to tears. So many today say things that just plain hurt. i would know, im still living the pain. My stepson and i had a huge fight a few months ago, I said so many hurtfull things before he walked out the door. Today I live and cry everyday as that was the last time i saw him as he was hit by a drunk driver that very day. I know we cant be saints all the time, but please try to show the ones in your life just how much you love them. I pray to god my stepson knows just how much I love him and hope he forgives me for that awefull day of hate we had. Rest in peace my son, I love you and i am so very sorry.
August 14th, 2008 at 2:01 pm
Oh Tom, I am sorry if I have stirred up pain in you, or anyone for that matter, but, yes, it needs to be addressed more. I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope that, First, you have forgiven yourself, that is so important. I am certain that your stepson has forgiven you, and I believe that each of us are taken in Divine Order, meaning that when it is our time, it will happen, so please, do not further pain yourself for that time.
As I have said, all of us have our moments of temper and so forth, and this is why it is necessary to always be aware of how we treat each other, which you have experienced first hand, and for that, I am so so sorrowful. Still, it is best to forgive yourself and live the days in the now, instead of what might have been, which I hope you are doing. Yes, it is one of the most difficult times to get through, under most circumstances, but, if you can let that time go, then healing will set you free…
I am so honored that you are the kind of person who took a stand on this article and told of your story, that was a great thing to do!
Life throws lessons at us left and right, and if we can actually learn from them, then our character advances to the heights of human nature, which creates a better world, one person at a time…
Again, I am deeply touched, and so sorry that I brought pain to your day with this article, I wish that could have been spared but life brings us into contact with that which heals us, do you see what I mean? Bless you, peace, and stay in touch… you can email me if you like at lyndaluv@gmail.com, if you ever need to, for any reason…
Thank you, and take care Tom, all will be well…
August 14th, 2008 at 9:04 pm
I think that you both make valid points about death, and how to live your life. I find that it’s natural for everyone to say “I could have done this more” or “I should have called her more” or some kind of guilt trip that puts yourself down. In reality, as long as that person knew that you loved them because you told them so, there isn’t a better way that someone could leave this earth. I am not a person that lives with “what if”….I live my life on a day to day basis and it gives me inner peace to do that. We will ALL feel guilt and pain when someone we love dies, but if they were a good person, they went to Heaven, so we should be jealous of them, because they graduated to a better life with no pain, no wars, and nothing but love and peace. I take comfort in knowing that my Mother, who died 2 months ago, is in a better place and looking down on us all, smiling.
August 14th, 2008 at 10:32 pm
Sometimes what may seem like such a pain, is actually such a small thing in reality to do to show someone you love them. That small gesture, that few minutes just to say i love you and ask how are you, may seem trivial and perhaps useless, but to the other means so much.
August 15th, 2008 at 12:43 pm
Very wise way to live Greg, kudos to you…excellent words of advice for anyone… thanks for sharing, great stuff…. and I totally agree with each and every word…
August 15th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Dan, you are so right too, it means much to another, and that in the long run, can mean much to you as well… people are too caught up in pursuit that they often forget what is most important, and because they are loved, their loved ones often stand in the background, silent and waiting to hear what they miss… thanks for sharing, it means much :))))
August 22nd, 2008 at 7:20 am
I agree with Greg, thank you for sharing your insight it made a difference for me..
August 24th, 2008 at 6:22 am
Lynda, Greg, Dan you all make valid points and I truly enjoyed all of your insites. This blog is great, ive been a avid reader of it for months now. Please keep up the great work!!