It’s summer time and that means there’s a much better chance of seeing bare skin. Better yet, glowing and tanned skin! Especially if you work in an environment where the ladies dress according to the weather, seeing those long stems or getting glimpses of toned abdomens can almost act like an all-day aphrodisiac.

After work and weekends can feel like the summer vacation days of youth. Barbecues every night, softball and baseball games, going to the pool or beach, and just working in the yard can all seem so much more tantalizing and sensual than the long stretch of winter now behind us (there’s a reason why women are attracted to those hunky lawn boys and gardeners!).

You already know what you like in ladies’ summer fashions—the less the better, right? But, guys, how much thought do you put into what you’re wearing during the summer? Shorts, tee shirts, board shorts, and the like are all fine for the outside, but do you make any changes in your underwear choices for summer?

Perhaps you should. In fact, let me give you a woman’s perspective on men’s underwear choices. So when you do get the opportunity to take off your summer clothes, the ladies will be impressed by the fact that you’re not wearing some dingy tighty-whities!

Its About More Than Just Tighty-Whities

First off, I’m certainly not encouraging you to spend a lot of your free hours shopping for new drawers at the mall—how awkward! Nope, there are plenty of websites with good things for you to check out and some also have women’s lingerie. Pick up something for your gal at the same time!

Now, the type of underwear you choose is going to be somewhat reflective of your personality or, at least, the personality you want to present. So that’s where we’ll start.

If I see a guy wearing some basic briefs, as long as they aren’t white, I think they’re just perfectly normal. They don’t think about their underwear too much, but are aware enough to spice it up with different colors. Don’t get me wrong, though, some sparkling white (no stains allowed!) briefs on a summer tanned body can look awfully good, too, just don’t try to rock that look every single day.

Bikinis Are Not The Same As Tiny Speedos

Different varieties of men’s bikinis are also a good choice to show off summer bodies. There are styles ranging from the traditional narrow sides with more coverage in front and back, to some that are more moderate with more coverage all around but still more skin-baring than traditional briefs.

Different colors, different band widths, brand names displayed on the underwear, fabrics—all of these things can make a big difference in the bikini look. Generally, the rule should be: the more confidence you show in your bod, the less coverage you can get away with. Just, you know, beware of Borat issues that can make you look, well, comic.

Freshen Up Your Boxers For Summer

Boxers, of course, are still an option for summer wear. Switch these up, though, from your winter stock. Cotton is a good fabric choice for the summer, especially since it’s going to be hot!

It’s okay to get playful with boxers—brighter colors, stripes, plaid, etc. But no alcohol advertisements, smiley faces are pretty much out, as is anything that’s too cutesy or cartoonish. A good rule of thumb—if you can easily picture the pattern on a toddler boy, they’re probably too immature for you!

You may still be able to get away with some silk boxers for special night time activities, just make sure it’s cool enough so they’re not sticking unattractively to your legs and package. Also be careful not to get cheesy with your color selection. Keep it simple if you’re spicing up the fabric. Black is a good choice for silk or satin, year-round.

Pouches Aren’t Just For Kangaroos

Pouches aren’t just for body-builders, either. Regular guys can get away with them and they’re reportedly more comfortable and supportive for guys’ than some other selections. In case you haven’t been looking at this category for a while, you are not restricted to just the g-string type variety of pouch.

There are pouch styles that are appealing on any body type. These include boxer-brief pouches, and different types of bikini pouches. Although, in general, I say stay away from patterns, you can get away with some patterns for special occasions. Especially if you are very secure and have a good sense of humor.

Don’t be afraid to try different color choices with the pouch, either. You’re already showing the ladies that you’re confident just through your choice of the pouch, so it’s okay to look at more than just black (though black is a strong choice if you’re just too uncertain about colors).

Don’t Be Afraid To Change Your Habits

Some believe men are creatures of habit. It can be true that guys want to spend less energy than women in their fashion and appearance choices. It’s not a hard and fast rule, just a generalization.

There are advantages to changing things up, though. Women discover, as early as the preschool years that putting on different outfits can bring out different facets of their personality. It can also change how others view them.

Since guys don’t have as many fashion items to choose from (i.e., no dresses, skirts, high heels, etc.), perhaps there’s a built-in lack of creativity in clothing choices. Or they have the fear that they’ll seem less manly, in some way, if they wear something different than other guys.

So changing up your underwear is a relatively safe way to try out some different fashion choices. The guys don’t have to know and better yet, the ladies will notice. You can even think of it as part of role-playing for bedroom activities!

Or, if you need a strictly practical reason to change things up, remember Mom’s tried and true advice: wear clean underwear. You never know who might end up seeing them! Changing out your drawers seasonally is a good habit to get into and practical to boot!

Summertime is here, and if you live in a state where it’s really HOT or humid, most likely, you’ll be smart enough to wear less clothing when you go outside.  Girlfriends Lingerie resides in Mesa, Arizona, and at this time of the year, it’s well above 100 degrees.  Depending on where you live, you may or may not have a lot of water in your area.  If you are sunbathing around an area with water, you should always becareful and remember that the water reflects the sun on you, which means you’ll tan or burn a lot quicker. 

If you want to wear a sexy bikini that shows a lot of skin, try our itsy bitsy bikini.  It comes in 5 colors and will hug your curves.  Do bikini’s make you feel good about yourself?  In all reality, it’s YOU that matters here, not what others think….unless of course you are purposely wearing our Gauze G-String bikini for the sole purposes of getting a nice tan and getting some attention focused on your body! For all of your anxiety over whether your bikini bottom makes your hips look wide, people at the beach or around the pool are busy socializing, eating, drinking and worrying about their own hips. They’re not thinking about yours.

If you’re self conscious to the point of wanting to cover up, you can use one of our sarongs to do so.  The important thing to remember is that you are wearing a bikini to get what you want, a nice tan in the hot sun, so remember that as long as you are comfortable with what you are wearing, that’s all that matters.  Check out Girlfriends Lingerie for our hot bikini’s and swimsuits!

This summer, people all across the U.S. will be indulging in the latest vacation trend—the staycation! Not familiar with the concept of a “staycation”? Let me educate you.

The staycation is a vacation at home. With gas prices and airfare seeming to increase by the day, and economic prosperity seeming to decrease at a similar rate, staycations are the way to go.

In my younger years, I had no choice but to take staycations when I used my vacation time. My salary didn’t allow for savings and as a singleton, I wasn’t comfortable traveling alone anyway.

Staycations are no longer for the young, single, or financially-challenged. People everywhere are viewing staying-at-home as not only practical, but creative, an investment in their local community, and fiscally responsible.

Themes Aren’t Just For Kids’ Parties

If you were going on a traditional vacation, there’d be a theme. Even if it’s just a geographical theme (the mountains, the beach, a different country), there is an underlying motif that ties everything together.

Since staying at home for your vacation isn’t geographically different than any other day, it’s up to you to choose the theme. The best part? You can change your theme daily or however often you like.

One day can be all about the outdoors—you and your significant other in your hottest swimwear, soaking up the rays, playing in a sprinkler, wading in a pool (even a plastic or inflatable pool will put you in the spirit!) for part of the day. Then, cover up with a cute wrap or sarong for grilling or just for eating outdoors.

Other themes can include a bedroom day (ladies and gents—this is the perfect opportunity to indulge in some new under things!), a day full of rental movies (series of movies or changing between your picks and his picks are a good way to go),

Focus On Yourselves As A Couple

Don’t feel any pressure to entertain others while you’re on your staycation. After all, if this was an away couples’ vacation, you probably wouldn’t be dragging your best friends along with you.

Try to incorporate some things that you would do on any other vacation. Try out a new restaurant or, at least, one you’ve never tried before. Try a new activity. Your spirits and intentions during a regular vacation can be fostered during a staycation with the right attitude.

Make time for real conversation. This is something many couples find being revived when on vacation because they’re away from their usual elements and stressors. Make a concentrated effort to do the same during your staycation. Don’t talk about the honey-do list or the laundry.

A good rule of thumb: if you wouldn’t be doing it on a regular vacation, put it off until your staycation is over, too!

Indulge In What You Can

Typically, new clothing is bought in anticipation of vacation. Okay, maybe this is mostly applicable to us ladies. At any rate, if you’re already cutting out airfare, gas, car rental, hotels, park tickets, and so on… you don’t have to cut out everything.

Why not get a new bathing suit and sarong for your outdoor theme day? Why not buy some cute loungewear for the movie day? Even guys need some new drawers, lounge pants, and maybe some slippers.

You don’t have to eat out every day the way you probably would on vacation elsewhere, but don’t spend all your time in the kitchen, either. Order take-out, delivery, or buy easy and convenient to make foods from the grocery store.

Be A Tourist In Your Own Town

You know all those places you drive by all the time and don’t stop at? We’ll get to it someday, you think. Well, a staycation is the perfect someday occasion.

Local museums, historical sites, parks, and the zoo can be just as exotic and new in your own hometown. If it helps, imagine you’re visiting from another town.

Do all the fun touristy things you’d do elsewhere and be unashamed and unapologetic about it! Take pictures in front of signs and landmarks. Ask others to take pictures of you and your significant other together.

Get souvenirs. This is one of those things you can indulge in, too, since you’re saving money elsewhere. Save little mementos to remind you later of the great times you had during your staycation. Napkins, menus, matchbooks, ticket stubs, and postcards can all be added to any pictures you take to make a nice scrapbook page or memory box of your staycation.

Take Care Of Yourselves

You know how when you come back from vacation, people notice a certain glow about you? It’s not necessarily just from spending time on a beach or poolside. Getting caught up on your sleep helps, as do the other care-taking activities you indulge in.

If you normally make a point of getting your hair done or having a spa day on vacation, there are creative ways to do this that can be very romantic, as well. Treat you and your significant other to some new fluffy robes or silky kimono robes for your at-home spa day.

Stock up on some fun face masks from the local drugstore, some cucumbers to slice up for your eyes and fancy little cucumber finger sandwiches to enjoy with some home-brewed iced tea.

Since you’re home alone, guys may even be willing to undergo some manicure and pedicure procedures. Swear to him you’ll keep it secret, though. And what could be more deliciously romantic than a bubble bath for two with candles and flower petals sprinkled on top?

Creativity And The Right Spirit Are Key

Staycations are only limited by your imagination. As with any vacation, it’s your time to do what you want. If the point is to spend alone time with your significant other, then honor that.

As with most things in life, if your spirit and heart are into it, the fun will follow!

There are a lot of men out there who are spending way too much time making comparisons between their woman and those who are available, often, using this method to make their woman do that which they want them to do. This is so wrong, so childish, and can make a woman feel as if she is not worthy in most respects…

I can understand that men want to see beautiful women, sexy women, and totally confident women, but, if you are married, or are in a relationship, there must have been something about the woman you are with else why are you with her? Look, if you need to have more pizazz to your relationship, talking it over works wonders; you don’t need to make someone feel less than desirable or out of place to get what you want. Honesty and sharing go a long, long way…

True, too many women do not care for themselves as much when they are comfortable in a relationship, still, that does not mean that a man has the right to make her feel as if she is unattractive, unexciting, unlovable. She might just need to hear what would make you happy, perhaps you need to initiate the change by buying her things which will dress her up, inspire her, or make her understand what it is you need. Granted, these subjects are often difficult to discuss, but, if you care for someone, discussion is the most adult way to handle that which creates wedges in a relationship…

Women are often misinformed about their role as wife, Mother, significant other; too often they have been raised that if you are a wife, Mother, or whatever; once you take on this role, you no longer have to try to impress. This is not their fault, it is the fault of social upbringing, and should be eradicated. Some women know intrinsically that remaining sexy, hot, and intriguing is the way to keep a man’s interest, but, most are raised believing that once you are in a marriage/relationship, he should be interested, else why did he commit?

Instead of men blaming and distributing guilt, ill-feelings, hurt, and shame, they need to take time to try to discuss such things. Instead of withdrawing to a fantasy world, give her the chance to be your fantasy, help her along without demands, without comparison, without disregard for her role as your wife/woman/lover/friend…

Women over 30 should not compared to 17 and 18 year old girls! It is cruel, it is foolish, it is totally a waste of time. All women were once that young, that cute, that desirable, and as they grow older, they do not want to be reminded that those days are gone, they already know that, plus, any man worth his salt should see that aging does not mean that women are less, in fact, they are more. It is like this, it is easy to be ‘all that’ when you are young, but, if she can still look good beyond 30 and higher, that is truly, a beautiful woman! It is all perceptual, and yes, there is lots of good lookin’ babes out there, but, realize this, those babes are always what they seem, and, they might have nothing else to offer, so, you better take a good long look at what is attractive and realize just how great the wife/woman/lover/friend you have really is, as the grass on the other side is not always greener, though the manure might be fresher…

Always take your partners feelings into consideration before you open your mouth, act, or react, it is the kindest thing you can do for them. And, if you have issues with any facet of them, try to discuss them on a mature and kind platform, you might be surprised at how effective this is. Also, if you would like your partner to change their appearance, help them along by purchasing that which you would like to see them in, it is not so hard to do, is it? Keep the outside world outside, and give the world in which you live the best of yourself, in honesty, fairness, compassion, consideration, respect, and genuine discussion of most things. No one deserves to be taunted for that which they do not understand, and so, if your partner does not seem to ‘get’ what you want or need, that is your own fault, for you are not grown enough to let them know…