NEVER LOOK BACK
Too many people in relationships are always looking back. They should always look forward. While there are certain conditions which might create pain, hurt, suffering, and, resentment, if you decided to work it out, you should let that remain behind you like a shadow in the full sun…
Even people who haven’t had many problems along the way, remind each other of the things they feel were out of line, or upset them. It is like the negative is heavier than the positive, and, that is never good…
We should strive for positive thoughts and actions each day, and, this should definitely be a part of a love relationship. Love should be unconditional, however, that is not always the case, though we could try harder to be more tolerant of things which set us off. One thing is for sure, if you have a mate who knows how to trigger you, they will use that to their advantage when they feel the need to, and, we all know how that scenario winds up…
We all have faults, shortcomings, idiosyncrasies, bad habits, annoying quirks, and other human traits, but, if we love someone, we accept these in the onset, so, why not farther down the line? You accept the same in your relatives, or your children, so, why not with your partner?
Partner is a great word, which means one who shares something with another,a comrade, friend, consort, companion, mate, participant… We would do well to remember what partner means. I like participant as the best descriptive of the word, for we are participants in the commitment, in life, in love, and, in all aspects of each. One thing which should also be thought about is that each partner is an equal participant in our life. When we committed, we granted them that right, and, it should be honored, remembered, and, respected…
Keeping love alive involves multi faceted, multi tasking, management ingenuity. We should pour as much imagination, creativity, and, planning in our personal relationship as we do our projects, for these are the most important of life’s payoffs. A great relationship with your partner will outsource all of your brilliant endeavors outside the home, therefore, it should be attended to with at least that much skill, enthusiasm, and attention to detail as anything else we do…
Try to recall why you came to be. Remember that bond which brought your relationship into existence. Be good to each other. Be respectful, thoughtful, kind, compassionate, humorous, and adventurous. Forget the small stuff, leave the negative baggage in the past, which is just a moment before. Don’t sweat what is wrong, embrace what is right. Make each day end on a positive, loving note. Be happy to be, together. Look forward and never back for when you are always looking back, you are missing that which is wonderful now….
