EXPECTATIONS & ROMANTIC GESTURES~
There was quite a bit of discussion over the World Wide Web during the Valentine’s week from men who feel that Valentine’s Day creates problems for them, and, I can certainly understand their feelings of pressure. According to some of the posts and articles I read, it seems that they HAD to please their women in the ways which SHE had decided were worthy. That is pretty one-sided, I would say…
As stated before, if a man does something which HE has decided on his own is a romantic gesture, that act should be appreciated. In fact, it should be even more appreciated than when a woman tells her man what she should get in the way of romantic notions, for he has taken the time to find some way to let them know that he is thinking of them…
Another thing which men voiced was that it seems that Valentine’s Day is only for women. Why is this? Who decided that it was a day for females? It is a day of love, romance, and, expression of such, so, why should it be singularly gender inclined? Makes no sense…
You see, these are the sort of issues which create troubles and problems in relationships, and, they are not fair issues; they are selfish issues, which means that one, or both, need to consider the other person as well. Love should be a give and take affair. It should be compassion, it should be respect, it should be appreciation, it should be a combination of the best of ourselves, that we gather the best from our partner. Does that make sense?
I live my love life not expecting. I give and then, if I receive, I appreciate. If I were to live in expectation, I would certainly be setting myself up for disappointment, for, often, the other person is not even aware of what I expect, still many people expect that their partner simply KNOW their expectations. This is so wrong, so not fair, so selfish….
Romantic gestures should be from the mind and heart of the giver. There should never be conditions on those gestures, and, regardless of how insignificant they might seem to you, they should be appreciated, and reciprocated with happiness and praise, because each of them, large or small, if added up through time, amount to a hell of a lot of love expressed…
