DETERMINING ROMANCE
Romance should live within the body, mind, and soul, as an intricate part of that which makes you whole. It should not be an effort which feels like work, rather, it should flow spontaneously and happily. It should be something which makes you feel good in knowing that you are making your partner feel good, and thus, making your relationship as good as it can be….Developing a romantic nature comes easily to some, but others are confounded by the idea of romance. This happens because they do not understand romance as a whole. Romance is nothing more than expression of deep love for another in a variety of ways, to ensure that the feeling and the spark between two will last and last and last…
Being a romantic means being soft, tender, attentive, creative, compassionate, caring, desirable, affectionate, resourceful, loving, and being able to share all the components of your internal being in ways which reinforce your feelings of love and passion…
Romantic gestures are often very small. They need not be exaggerated or persistent, though surely they should be consistent. A note expressing love, a flower or flowers, a shared bubble bath, a walk in the park, holding hands, gifts, tokens, remembered dates, dinner dates, nights out, shared fantasies, shared dreams, goals, and, ideas, warm, friendly embraces, drives to favorite places, romantic getaways, planned adventures of the mutual kind, simple gestures, such as breakfast in bed, favorite meals, movie nights, reading favorite material to one another, overall, sharing of the person within, deep within, with the complexities, needs, desires, ambitions, feelings, and, generosities of said person…
It is a person to person experience of sharing what and who we are, but, also, of being aware of who and what the other person is, that they are given that which allows them to flourish and be happy as much as is possible for anyone to be in life and love…
No, romance and romantic nature is not a difficult thing to acquire or accomplish. If it is left to flow through the course of a love bonded relationship, it is that which comes naturally, or should. When people make it complicated by applying pressure to what is, or what is not romantic, it can certainly feel like too much work for the effort, so, it is best to recognize romantic gestures, no matter how subtle, appreciate them, embrace them, and take them to heart, for each person is individual, and ones idea of romance is different from the others. If there is judgment involved, such as deciding if their effort was not enough, that can make romance less than enjoyable, and, certainly not what it was intended to be….
