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THE MANY FACETS OF BEING A WOMAN

I so love being a woman. There are so many factors to being a woman which are simply wonderful. While men are my favorite beings, they are less complex than we women. They might have some complexities of character or personality, but, basically, they are what they are; like what you see is mostly what you get. You can make a man look a bit different here and there, with certain clothes, etc., but, they are not so mysteriously transformed as a woman can be…

Take hair, makeup, clothes, lingerie, and other such dressings for women. We can easily transform from being wife, Mother, housewife, career woman, or what have you, into a total diva, a dream come to life, a devastating and seductive stranger. We have at our convenience, the ability to totally transform our looks, our personality, our character, and, become whatever we, or our partner wants us to be. How cool is that?

Regardless of the woman, there are many women existing inside that persona waiting to exhale. There is the ability to entice in every woman, and, if she is encouraged to use it, watch out. Women are fabulous at role playing, once they get the gist of it, and, they often love the freedom of release…

I love being every woman within me. I am not too shy about letting them have their stage, for they each have something to lend to life, and often, there is a lesson or an encouraging facet coming of them. Each of these women, for the most part, are kept deep inside, for what reason, I have no idea, but, letting them come forth for an evening is like seeing yourself for the first time, and, since it is really you personified, it is a growth experience. It can be a great confidence builder, and, it can lift you when you are feeling less than exciting….

I have a bit of the movie star in me, and, I like it. I can play the highly acclaimed and rather spoiled actress so well. Perhaps it is from childhood fantasy, perhaps it is really a part of being a woman. I have been told often that I am intriguing and mysterious, and, I think that the reason is because of these characters who combine with my basic character, to make me appear as such. Perhaps it is because I Know for certain what I can accomplish in my role as devastator, or that I am comfortable with the many facets living within me, whatever it is, it allows for fun, adventure, and, certainly leaves them wanting for more…

Being a woman is indeed, a great thing to be. The men in my life have helped me to understand, embrace, and, flourish in this fact, and, I am so grateful that they realized before I did, what lived beneath the surface, and, allowed me to bring forth the wonderfully exciting temptresses which compose me as a whole… It has made me free to be, me…

REALITIES IN FANTASY~

Life is short, and, love is in that cycle, so, we must act out our fantasies. Well, the ones which won’t chase our love away…

What is your favorite fantasy? Myself, I have lived most of mine, but, I have one about living on a tropical island, where I am one of the only foreigners residing. I have a lovely beach house, about 20 feet from the end of the sand. I have helpers to maintain my home, all sexy, and, all men. They attend to my every need, though, I never take advantage of the fact that they would indeed, attend to my every whim. I have a lover who is kind, considerate, sweet, caring, and also attentive to my every need. He is rather tall, well tanned, kind of big, and very good looking in a boy next door kind of way. He is not too young, nor too old. He is mature, fun, and a great lover, and, he makes me crazy with his ways… I will leave the rest to imagination…

The point is, I could easily make this fantasy a reality, even if I cannot go and live on a tropical island. There are places right here in my own country that I could go to, which would be very close to paradise, and, I could act out the entire fantasy, if only for  a weekend. Ah, what a romantic weekend that would be…

It is important to share these fantasies with your lover, for, they most likely need to share theirs with you too. Then, you can determine ways to fulfill these fantasies, which will create romance, for it will be a shared experience which no other two on Earth have shared. It will be your secret meeting of the minds and body, which will surely further bond the soul…

Women fantasize all the time, but, men fantasize more, and, their fantasies are a bit easier to fulfill than that of women. So, if you can get your man to open up about his hidden desires, perhaps you can make him very happy by participating, and, making that dream come true, which means that you will be even closer than you were…

Of course, there are those fantasies which are beyond compromise. Many people have very far fetched fantasies, and, while, if both parties are agreed to try them out, they can often backfire on you. Sometimes if a couple acts out far fetched fantasies, there is resentment, regret, and other negatives, so, be sure to consider the extent of the fantasy before you agree to it…

There should be freedoms within a relationship which allow partners to share their deepest desires, and, to act them out. It gives romance a whole new level of excitement, and, truly creates hours of entertaining ideas before and after the actualization of fulfillment… Realities in fantasy are wonderful, for they no longer exist selfishly within, they have been shared by two whose love is boundless…

NEVER LOOK BACK

Too many people in relationships are always looking back. They should always look forward. While there are certain conditions which might create pain, hurt, suffering, and, resentment, if you decided to work it out, you should let that remain behind you like a shadow in the full sun…

Even people who haven’t had many problems along the way, remind each other of the things they feel were out of line, or upset them. It is like the negative is heavier than the positive, and, that is never good…

We should strive for positive thoughts and actions each day, and, this should definitely be a part of a love relationship. Love should be unconditional, however, that is not always the case, though we could try harder to be more tolerant of things which set us off. One thing is for sure, if you have a mate who knows how to trigger you, they will use that to their advantage when they feel the need to, and, we all know how that scenario winds up…

We all have faults, shortcomings, idiosyncrasies, bad habits, annoying quirks, and other human traits, but, if we love someone, we accept these in the onset, so, why not farther down the line? You accept the same in your relatives, or your children, so, why not with your partner?

Partner is a great word, which means one who shares something with another,a comrade, friend, consort, companion, mate, participant… We would do well to remember what partner means. I like participant as the best descriptive of the word, for we are participants in the commitment, in life, in love, and, in all aspects of each. One thing which should also be thought about is that each partner is an equal participant in our life. When we committed, we granted them that right, and, it should be honored, remembered, and, respected…

Keeping love alive involves multi faceted, multi tasking, management ingenuity. We should pour as much imagination, creativity, and, planning in our personal relationship as we do our projects, for these are the most important of life’s payoffs. A great relationship with your partner will outsource all of your brilliant endeavors outside the home, therefore, it should be attended to with at least that much skill, enthusiasm, and attention to detail as anything else we do…

Try to recall why you came to be. Remember that bond which brought your relationship into existence. Be good to each other. Be respectful, thoughtful, kind, compassionate, humorous, and adventurous. Forget the small stuff, leave the negative baggage in the past, which is just a moment before. Don’t sweat what is wrong, embrace what is right. Make each day end on a positive, loving note. Be happy to be, together. Look forward and never back for when you are always looking back, you are missing that which is wonderful now….

EXPECTATIONS & ROMANTIC GESTURES~

There was quite a bit of discussion over the World Wide Web during the Valentine’s week from men who feel that Valentine’s Day creates problems for them, and, I can certainly understand their feelings of pressure. According to some of the posts and articles I read, it seems that they HAD to please their women in the ways which SHE had decided were worthy. That is pretty one-sided, I would say…

As stated before, if a man does something which HE has decided on his own is a romantic gesture, that act should be appreciated. In fact, it should be even more appreciated than when a woman tells her man what she should get in the way of romantic notions, for he has taken the time to find some way to let them know that he is thinking of them…

Another thing which men voiced was that it seems that Valentine’s Day is only for women. Why is this? Who decided that it was a day for females? It is a day of love, romance, and, expression of such, so, why should it be singularly gender inclined? Makes no sense…

You see, these are the sort of issues which create troubles and problems in relationships, and, they are not fair issues; they are selfish issues, which means that one, or both, need to consider the other person as well. Love should be a give and take affair. It should be compassion, it should be respect, it should be appreciation, it should be a combination of the best of ourselves, that we gather the best from our partner. Does that make sense?

I live my love life not expecting. I give and then, if I receive, I appreciate. If I were to live in expectation, I would certainly be setting myself up for disappointment, for, often, the other person is not even aware of what I expect, still many people expect that their partner simply KNOW their expectations. This is so wrong, so not fair, so selfish….

Romantic gestures should be from the mind and heart of the giver. There should never be conditions on those gestures, and, regardless of how insignificant they might seem to you, they should be appreciated, and reciprocated with happiness and praise, because each of them, large or small, if added up through time, amount to a hell of a lot of love expressed…

LINGERIE PERSPECTIVE

I am amazed at how many people are uppity about lingerie, or, shy and bashful, or misunderstanding of lingerie companies. I have been finding out more and more how uptight most people are about lingerie and it’s dealers…

Some act like lingerie is disgusting. Pleeeeaassseee, what is disgusting about a beautiful person in a gorgeous gown, or chemise? Some act like they shouldn’t let others know that they find lingerie exciting. Whyyyyyyyyyy not? Some love lingerie. but, hide their feelings about it, and, never let anyone know how much they love it, order it, or wear it. What is up with this???

Myself, I adore lingerie. There are certain lingerie styles and accessories which do not appeal to me, but, hey, that is true with everything. I love looking like a sexy and seductive woman, for that is much a part of my personality. I adore being looked upon as a temptress, as sensuous and exciting, for that is what makes a relationship healthy and strong. I love the materials, the styles, the cut, the detail, the feminine edge to the kind of lingerie which I choose; ladylike, soft, sexy, and with an impact which can take the breath from a man. It is feeling of pure pleasure to see a man enthralled with me draped in beautiful, sheer or not, glamorous materials, which flow on my body, or hug to my curves, creating a much more enticing me…

Granted, there is hard core lingerie and accessories, but, that is a personal choice, and, from a business sense, a very profitable business it is. One has the choice of finding that which is true to their nature and lifestyle. If you are opposed to the harder elements of the lingerie industry, there are plenty of options available, which cater to personalities such as yours.

Lingerie is a wonderful part of life. It enhances, it creates allure, fantasy, and brings one into touch with their ’star’ side. When you allow yourself to become a character with each lingerie ensemble, you are releasing a side of you which is carefree, confident, and bewitching. Nothing spells romance better than a couple who can share their fantasies, or act out new ones which they have devised together. Nothing keeps a couple closer than those who are open to their sensuality; it is love personified, demystified, and, fully shared, and, from my stand point, it doesn’t get much better than that…

Then, there is the attitude one has which won’t allow them to experiment with the lovely choices of lingerie because they feel that it would not look good on them. Believe me, there are so many choices, that you will find plenty which will look great on you, and, age is no factor either, for you can find exquisite full coverage, if you feel that is the case. Besides that, your partner has already seen you as you are, but, have they seen you as a dramatic and devastating tease? You see what I mean?

Yes, lingerie is essential for many reasons, and, it is nothing to hide from. It is the silver lining in the black cloud of stagnation in a relationship. It is the spark of fire which keeps the love alive. It is the stuff which dreams are made of, and, of which dreams are kept alive. Lingerie is a statement of that which needs not be spoken, instead enjoyed by all involved…

DETERMINING ROMANCE

Romance should live within the body, mind, and soul, as an intricate part of that which makes you whole. It should not be an effort which feels like work, rather, it should flow spontaneously and happily. It should be something which makes you feel good in knowing that you are making your partner feel good, and thus, making your relationship as good as it can be….Developing a romantic nature comes easily to some, but others are confounded by the idea of romance. This happens because they do not understand romance as a whole. Romance is nothing more than expression of deep love for another in a variety of ways, to ensure that the feeling and the spark between two will last and last and last…

Being a romantic means being soft, tender, attentive, creative, compassionate, caring, desirable, affectionate, resourceful, loving, and being able to share all the components of your internal being in ways which reinforce your feelings of love and passion…

Romantic gestures are often very small. They need not be exaggerated or persistent, though surely they should be consistent. A note expressing love, a flower or flowers, a shared bubble bath, a walk in the park, holding hands, gifts, tokens, remembered dates, dinner dates, nights out, shared fantasies, shared dreams, goals, and, ideas, warm, friendly embraces, drives to favorite places, romantic getaways, planned adventures of the mutual kind, simple gestures, such as breakfast in bed, favorite meals, movie nights, reading favorite material to one another, overall, sharing of the person within, deep within, with the complexities, needs, desires, ambitions, feelings, and, generosities of said person…

It is a person to person experience of sharing what and who we are, but, also, of being aware of who and what the other person is, that they are given that which allows them to flourish and be happy as much as is possible for anyone to be in life and love…

No, romance and romantic nature is not a difficult thing to acquire or accomplish. If it is left to flow through the course of a love bonded relationship, it is that which comes naturally, or should. When people make it complicated by applying pressure to what is, or what is not romantic, it can certainly feel like too much work for the effort, so, it is best to recognize romantic gestures, no matter how subtle, appreciate them, embrace them, and take them to heart, for each person is individual, and ones idea of romance is different from the others. If there is judgment involved, such as deciding if their effort was not enough, that can make romance less than enjoyable, and, certainly not what it was intended to be….

UNDERSTANDING = A MEASURE OF SUCCESS, EVEN IN LOVE *PART TWO*

It is people who make love seem to go bad, or make it bad. When people become settled, besides fear, they get bored. Not a good thing, especially if you have found love. If you love someone and you are friends with this person as well, how could you be bored? Now, the worst part about a partner becoming bored, is that they often don’t share that feeling, and, they believe that the other person is responsible for their happiness… Grow up.! No one in the world is responsible for your happiness besides yourself! If you expect your partner to make sure you are always happy and never bored, you need to really do some soul searching, for we are each responsible for our own condition of life…

Blame, guilt, fear, boredom, shame, and, a few other negatives are the reason relationships fail. These create need for outside stimuli, which is against the very nature of love. Love is a pact between two and should be honored, respected, nurtured, and revered as the perfect creation it is. When you begin to feel negativity, communication is the fastest alternative, you must be mature enough to discuss anything and everything. It is the fair, and the right thing to do. That way, both partners know what they are up against. There is nothing worse than being the partner in a relationship who is not aware of what is going on, what is wrong, or what could potentially tear the relationship apart. Again, I say, it is not fair, which is why communication in all forms is imperative to keeping love flourishing…

One thing about love which many do not grasp is that it is a power which can take you to the Universe, but, if it is mishandled by immature actions, it can plummet with the soul to the bowels of hell. When you decide to commit to someone, be mature in that decision and the responsibility which comes with it. Think of it as you would raising a child, for indeed, even more than that kind of commitment and responsibility and unconditional love is required between two who delve into the mysterious and all encompassing waters of love. Learn to remind yourself that you think not for yourself, but, for another as well. Your mindset and actions, whatever the consequences, fully affect the other half of your soul, which is indeed, your partner…

Understanding the intricacies of love takes time, but, another persons life and happiness is at stake as well as your own, so, it is best to understand the essential foundation of love, and from that stance, go with the natural flow of it. Face each phase, level, lesson, and, growth as a couple, not one against the other, and, otherwise, relax and accept that you are in love, that you might experience its full impact in such a way that there is no need to become stressed by it in any way… Love is a hell of a ride, brace yourself, hang on, and enjoy it, it is like a gift from the Heavens for two to share….

UNDERSTANDING = A MEASURE OF SUCCESS, EVEN IN LOVE~~~

One of the key factors to a successful relationship is to understand love. Love is more than a feeling, love is a state of the soul. Love is the essence of melding two souls as one, although, that does not indicate a loss of individuality, which is an important thing to remember. Love is a rope, a bond, an anchor, a secure hold in the course of life: it is the trust between two that each can rely on the other for support, friendship, truth, caring, sharing, and mutual life experiences. Love is the unknown origin of an essence of emotion which is never fully tapped no matter how hard we try. Love does not go wrong, the people within loves vastness go wrong, for whatever reason. Love does not include negativity, people create it. Love is a great and endless source of all which is good; if love seems to have disappointed us, it is important to remember that love cannot do such a thing, it is the people in love who do so…

Love includes a mass of emotions. Desire, passion, breathlessness, a sense of mindlessness, fantasy, ecstasy, euphoria of an unexplainable kind, a kind of mental and physical surrender, a childlike fascination with the experience and the person we are experiencing it with, a high like nothing else, and, a need such as we might never feel again… Love will consume you like a black hole. You will be vacuumed into its vastness without warning or understanding. It will render you weak, giddy, afraid, yet, longing for more and more. Love takes us on one hell of a ride, and, if we do not over analyze that rush filled ride, it will be the most wonderful experience you will ever have…

So, here we are in this state of love, then, time settles us down a bit. Some become alarmed at this time; they are fearful that surely it is dying. Take it easy, love is growing, it has become a part of you. Don’t worry, for it is fear, such as in any other part of life, which creates problems, like doubt. Fear breeds negativity, and negativity in the mind breeds a whole different perspective, which is all against the very flow of love…

Part Two coming Wednesday, stay tuned for more…