INTIMACY…

Some relationships seem to flow along with little trouble or upset. Perhaps those who have that kind of relationship have come to conclusions about how to keep it that way….

One thing I know for sure is that it takes lots of communication, sacrifice, willingness, understanding, deep compassion, caring, sharing, and above all, a commitment to the relationship itself, and, to the original love of the two in said relationship. A commitment to the love? That is right. Saying that you love someone carries a lot of responsibility, especially if they are your spouse or to become your spouse. You have to commit to that love, to that feeling, to that state, to the long haul of that love…

Relationships should be managed, that they are allotted time for special occasions, that they are open and friendly, that they are considered high priority over all else. Too many people these days place careers as their highest priority, and, while there is necessity in doing so (you have to pay the bills), it should never come before our relationship. Never.

I have always managed my work life around my home life. I realize that too many people have more demanding schedules to fulfill, but, there are ways to make sure that the person you love is in the top slot of your list for each and every day…

A simple phone call in the afternoon. An arranged date for dinner on the way home. A surprise bouquet of favorite flowers. An email once or twice a day. Send them a DVD, CD, or other little gifts at work or at home. The element of surprise shows that they are ever present in your thoughts…

When you get home, speak to each other, talk of your day or other things, while you are changing, shaving, or whatever. Spend a few moments touching and a kiss here and there. These are the moments of your life, and, this is how intimacy is built and preserved….

If you have things to do in the evening, schedule at least an hour of down time together, at some time before you go to sleep. The point is that you each need to be together, without cell phones, messages, and the burdens of the day or coming day. Just time to be, as a couple…

When intimacy is neglected, the passion soon follows. Intimacy is the rope which binds two together. Intimacy is not solely physical, it is much deeper than that. It is the sharing of life and time between two who have sworn to love each other for the rest of time. It is the action of love personified. It is the essence of past, present, and future connecting, and, that is what a relationship is really all about. A connection, which bonds, fuses, and, then morphs into something greater, ever greater….