DESIRE…
2008! A fresh year to begin whatever your heart desires, whatever your mind inspires. A new beginning…Speaking of desires, people seem to have so many of them. I know I do. I have more desires than I should have, and, at times, they seem to overwhelm me. I have physical desires, mental desires, spiritual desires, and, even desires I don’t know about quite yet….
What shall we do with all of these desires? Can we possibly fulfill each of them? Or is that part of the drive of life, that we are in a constant state of desire, that we are more motivated? I do not know, all I know is that when you think about it, we are all but submerged in desire…
Fulfilling desires can be challenging to say the least. As we visualize in our minds, and then set the thought into action, it often comes short of what we had imagined, which leads to a less than satisfying experience. This is true for romance, business, recreation, and, many other areas. You know what I am talking about: that vacation that you scrimped and saved for, did research on, found the best deal for your money, fantasized about, and, then you arrive to your destination and it is, well, a place from hell. You try to make the best of it, but, quickly become bored with the whole scenario, and, then so upset that you paid all of that moolah for this!
Each of us have been there, in many facets of life. Yet, on the flight home, we will be developing new desires and visualizing their outcome…
Desires and romance go hand in hand. We desire our intended in ways we cannot often describe. We fill our minds with fantasies of how we would show them the depths of our desire, but, when it comes down to it, it is rarely as good as the imagined enactment of said desire. Still, we attempt to make it work. We strive to provide some level of desire for our partner, which will be better, different, and more exciting than it was before. We aim to please, though often we are the ones who are disappointed because of our heightened expectations. We get lost in the fantasy and reality can really bite when it comes to fulfillment of that which lives in our minds…
We can make our desires a reality. How? By eliminating the fantasy parts which are too outrageous to be. By alleviating the stress of making it happen; that is by initiating the idea of the desire and letting it flow from there. When we are too expectant about the results of something, we get lost in the initiation process and we often miss out on the actual pleasure derived from the action. Does that make sense?
This is how it should work; that is not a guarantee, but, it should go like this: I decide that I want to make my partner weak with want of me. I have a whole night planned out. I will wear some really hot lingerie, my appearance will be to the nines, I will fix a dinner of his choice, with the lingerie on. I will serve it, we will eat, drink, and, be merry. Afterwards, we will both clean up the mess, partly so it is done faster. We will play around in the kitchen during the clean-up, like you know, just mess around, jokingly… When the mess is finished, we will go out onto the deck/patio/balcony and have a cocktail or two. There will be music in the background. We will gaze at the stars and talk a bit. Then, I will get up and go into the house, where I will start dancing. I will not look at him, but, will get lost in the music. I won’t notice if he is there or not, for a while. I want to really get into it, whether he is watching or not. I want to feel the feeling of desire escalating within me before I involve him. Hopefully, he will have been watching and will be feeling what I am feeling, BUT, I do not have to have him watching me in order for the fantasy to go as my mind has seen it, I DO have to get into it myself, prior to his participation. Do you see where I am going with this? Instead of relying on his participation up to this point, I am making MY fantasy work for me, and, when he does participate, it will be all the better…
Being free and easy in fulfillment relieves the stress of ‘what if’. When we just do what we have imagined without requiring externals to cooperate, then they can flow much easier, it is what fulfillment is all about. Begin with your own fulfillment and let that around you join in or lose out… It works, and, it is easier for it to escalate, as their is no pressure on the externals involved. Ok, it is like this; if you could do that vacation from hell all over, and, find ways to make it good, like exploring the area, or stay away from the parts which bring you down, you might find some great pleasure in the experience… I have been there, and, being the creative mind I am, I have found ways to make it as pleasurable as possible…
Yes, desire. We have so much desire, so much imagination, and, little idea of how to make it work, often relying on externals and other people to make it happen for us. If we could understand that it is our desire, and therefore, our place to fulfill it, it would turn out all the better; think?
