If you want to keep your mans interest, there are many ways to go. It takes some effort, practice, and, creativity to keep it going and growing, but, you can do it…

There is one thing I know. Men like sexy women. It doesn’t matter if you are gorgeous or not, that really is not what sexy is about. Sexy is an attitude, a confidence, an aura of dreamy playfulness…

A sexy woman can be one of the guys, one of the girls, or just a smoldering kitten. There are as many kinds of sexy as there are men who want sexy women. What works for you might not work for me, so, you need to study your persona from inside to outside. You need to decide what kind of sexiness is your brand of sexy…

Role playing is part of being sexy. It doesn’t even have to be obvious role playing, it can be as subtle as your breath, but, that will take some getting used to… Obvious role playing such as dressing in a costume or lingerie, will also take some getting used to, but, if you practice for a while in private, when you finally spring it on him, it will be great…

I recommend watching old movies of the sexy divas from back when. Study their mannerisms, their expressions and movements. I also recommend watching stripper videos, or pole dancing videos, or simply dance instruction videos. Practice them for a while, develop some grace and sultry movements. Get into it, feel it, and, it will become a part of you… Just keep it real for you, that is, use that which you feel will work good with your personality and body. If you go beyond that, it won’t be as effective, for you are not copying, instead you are borrowing that which will enhance what you are and have…

Start out with a little surprise, such as one night after dinner, suddenly appear looking like a dream come true. Find that perfect outfit, costume, or lingerie, and, dress it up to the nines. Bring him his favorite beverage, then fall into whatever act you have devised, all the while kind of being elusive, keeping him at bay so to speak…

Get into it. Don’t even look his way until you are into it, then, ever so sweetly, look deep into his eyes, and, you will see the pleased surprise in them. If you are dancing for him, keep it going for a while, then, perhaps you can coax him to join, although, few will. They would rather watch. Make the rhythm come to life via your body. Use the language only men really understand and crave. Be the fantasy he has always had…

There is so much more to tell. There is abundant information to being sexy, though not all of it is easily spoken of. It is like subliminal in its life, and, once you find it, you will see that it takes on a life of its own, and, I am willing to bet that you will like it as much as he does, if not more; there is something about being a sexy woman which empowers you, him, and your relationship. Never underestimate the power of being sexy, it can give you an extra 10 or more years of wonderful romance…

The lingerie business surely sees the effects of Valentine’s Day, and other days of romantic intent, such as Sweetest Day, birthday’s and so forth…

Lingerie and such days of the heart, should have a place in our lives every day. There are so many different styles of lingerie, that it should be easy to wear it mostly every day. As for the matter of days of the heart, well, those should certainly exist every day. Couples should embrace each day together in celebration of their love, in as many ways as they can…

Keeping a partner happy takes work. It is nice to have those special days to remind each other of our commitment, but, wouldn’t it be nice if there was celebration each and every day? It doesn’t have to be obvious, just small gestures and words to let that person know how important they are to you, and, how happy you are to have them in your life…

Time is fragile. We never know what tomorrow will bring, therefore, it is essential to share your love constantly as best as you can. Too many times we face regret because we did not take the time to make sure that someone close to us know how much they mean to us. We walk around regretful and remorseful because of it…

It just seems to me that if you made a commitment to someone, that you would want them to walk in the essence of your love every day, in every way possible. It seems to me that you would shower them with gratitude, appreciation, and, love. It seems that they should carry your love in all of their senses constantly and consistently…

Yes, time changes the way we express our love, but, why? Is it written somewhere that this should occur? Is there a real reason for it? I think that it is partly because people get so comfortable with one another that they assume that they know how much they are loved, and, that is fine. Still, wouldn’t it be nice to show them every day, that they actually walk in your love?

I know for certain that love should be shared to the fullest each day. It only makes it more pleasurable, which means that romance will live on. We need to make our partner aware of how much they mean to us, we need to show them with gestures, words, gifts, expressions, and, other ways we can imagine. It isn’t that difficult to take 5 minutes to share what is in your heart and soul with the one you chose to share life with, is it?

Valentine’s Day should be every day. While it is nice to have that date on the calendar that we go to some length to honor it, it should be implemented into our lives on a daily basis, that Cupid be honored for bringing you together in the first place. Love only grows, especially if we keep it flowing, for each other, and all the world to see…

We have so many new and exciting things that are going to be added this year. Already our Mens Hanes line is growing in the Men’s department. This new line is at a great price and should be a huge hit for us all.

Our Hanes line will also expand into the women’s categories also. When most people think of Hanes they think mostly men’s items. We aim to change that, as our Hanes line includes so many designs for women that are just amazing.

Another line that will be expanding in the coming weeks is our Bali bras section.

And so much more….

Don’t forget Valentines Lingerie, It’s right around the corner. Don’t miss out on fantastic deals. This will be an exciting year for us as many new lines will grow and new ones appearing.

From all of us here at Girlfriends Lingerie, we wish you and yours all the best.

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In the beginning, we are on cloud 9 or better, when it comes to a relationship. As time goes on, we find ourselves wondering what happened to that initial feeling. Actually, nothing happened to it, except that it grew up….

The problem lies in the fact that people are addicted to that high, that passion, that rush they feel in the onset of a relationship, and, as the months and years go by, they feel cheated and in need of a fix. That is one reason so many people cheat. They need that feeling…

The initial overwhelming feeling of a new love is exhilarating, and, it is consuming. There are few in the world who have ever kept that feeling alive during the entire course of their relationship, it just doesn’t work that way. That doesn’t mean that it is not there, it just settled a bit or more, that we can get on with our lives together, on a realistic foundation…

This is one reason to make sure you keep the fire burning. This is one reason to be your best, totally. This is one reason to keep fantasies of each other going. We have to work at keeping interest paramount that we might keep the passion intact…

Couples who act out their fantasies together are usually happy, for they have allowed each other to express and live what they most desire. There is a balance to be had here as well, as some people, given the opportunity to express their fantasies might go way beyond healthy and normal, but, this too can be dealt with, if you have open communication…

Always remember why you chose to be in a relationship with the person you are with. This is the basis of reality check. Granted some people change, and they might change dramatically over the course of time, if this is so, then you now need to decide if the love is worth the effort. If not, you know what to do… If so, then, it is time to get back into each other. This requires effort and desire to make things right…

Keeping love and heat intense requires openness and fairness and even some changing. If you really love someone and each of you have gone in different directions, either in life or in passion, then someone has to do something to get back on track. Which might mean that either both or one of you might have to change some personality traits or actions around a bit. If it is real love and worth keeping, the effort will be well worth it…

For instance, your partner loves to go out, you do not. There is great tension created in such situations, for you are what you are. This is where sacrifice and effort come into the picture. You do not want them going out on their own, they think you are boring. So, the best way to handle it is to make a deal, such as, you will go out with them once in a while, if they will not go out on their own. It is compromise and sacrifice, both of which are effective trouble shooters.. Another example, he likes strip clubs and such, she is totally against him setting foot in such places. Alternative? Buy some costumes, lingerie, props, dance instructional videos, and practice, baby! Give him shows he’ll not soon forget, make him see that he doesn’t need to set foot in such places. Give him reason to understand why he has everything he needs right at home…

Compromise and sacrifice, communication and openness, each will help you to find common ground on which to stand. Each will better enable the other to live that which lives within without causing distance or pain….

Except in unusual or defeated relationships, happiness is just an effort away. All you have to do is to decide what would make you and your partner happier, talk about it, act upon it, and, you will have grown to another exciting level of love. It is up to you, either effort or more distance. The choice seems clear to me…

Too many people are afraid of the word devotion. They do not understand exactly what the word means, or, they think that it is too much to ask for one person, or they think that it is like total surrender of their individuality, or they think that it is ‘old school’….

Devotion comes with love, if it is real love. It means that you are in that love for better, worse, or any of the many scenarios it will bring with it, it means that you will stand beside each other through thick and thin, richer or poorer, sickness and health, right or wrong. It means that you so love this person that your rightful place is beside them…

Devotion does not mean worship or relinquishing your person. Devotion means that you care enough to be there for the person you chose to love. It means that this person is worthy of your time, mind, touch, and, care. It means that you share of yourself as you would for yourself, period….

A devoted couple shares a lifetime of events, feelings, and experiences, hand in hand, side by side, mind by mind, heart by heart… They go the distance together and for each other. It is the essentiality of their love, personified by the actions they carry out, all the while with the other person’s interests in tow…

Devotion is not sappy, it is substance. Substance which binds two people together that they have security in their love and lives. Substance which prevails in the face of adversity and hard times. Substance which melds their beings into one, therefore, doing unto each other as they would have done unto themselves. It is a fairness and a compliance of true affection…

Devotion is loyalty. Loyalty is worth more than one can imagine, for it is lack of loyalty which tears relationships of every kind to shreds that it cannot be rebuilt. Loyalty is assurance of commitment and action on that commitment. Loyalty is honoring another as you would have them honor you. It is respect. It is a very substantial part of devotion, as without it, there is no love, friendship; there is no relationship…

Devotion is so important to relationships that if two do not understand its meaning or purpose, they will eventually see that something is missing, but, not understanding devotion, they might not be sure what exactly is missing, until it is too late…

Some words carry so much impact that people have eradicated them from their lives and minds and actions, for fear of them, and for fear of not appearing cool, or whatever. This is a mistake, for words such as devotion, with its mighty impact, can make life all the sweeter, all the more full of love, all the more worthy of living, as your relationship will grow to heights such as you can only imagine.

This word, devotion, and many others are imperative to love. Love cannot fully grow, flow, or show without the essential elements which allow it to do so. People should understand the words associated with love, they should combine the words of love, and act on these words which comprise love, for only then will they see love in its full realm, with its ever beautiful power emerging into their lives, which will result in actual ecstasy for the remainder of life….

Some relationships seem to flow along with little trouble or upset. Perhaps those who have that kind of relationship have come to conclusions about how to keep it that way….

One thing I know for sure is that it takes lots of communication, sacrifice, willingness, understanding, deep compassion, caring, sharing, and above all, a commitment to the relationship itself, and, to the original love of the two in said relationship. A commitment to the love? That is right. Saying that you love someone carries a lot of responsibility, especially if they are your spouse or to become your spouse. You have to commit to that love, to that feeling, to that state, to the long haul of that love…

Relationships should be managed, that they are allotted time for special occasions, that they are open and friendly, that they are considered high priority over all else. Too many people these days place careers as their highest priority, and, while there is necessity in doing so (you have to pay the bills), it should never come before our relationship. Never.

I have always managed my work life around my home life. I realize that too many people have more demanding schedules to fulfill, but, there are ways to make sure that the person you love is in the top slot of your list for each and every day…

A simple phone call in the afternoon. An arranged date for dinner on the way home. A surprise bouquet of favorite flowers. An email once or twice a day. Send them a DVD, CD, or other little gifts at work or at home. The element of surprise shows that they are ever present in your thoughts…

When you get home, speak to each other, talk of your day or other things, while you are changing, shaving, or whatever. Spend a few moments touching and a kiss here and there. These are the moments of your life, and, this is how intimacy is built and preserved….

If you have things to do in the evening, schedule at least an hour of down time together, at some time before you go to sleep. The point is that you each need to be together, without cell phones, messages, and the burdens of the day or coming day. Just time to be, as a couple…

When intimacy is neglected, the passion soon follows. Intimacy is the rope which binds two together. Intimacy is not solely physical, it is much deeper than that. It is the sharing of life and time between two who have sworn to love each other for the rest of time. It is the action of love personified. It is the essence of past, present, and future connecting, and, that is what a relationship is really all about. A connection, which bonds, fuses, and, then morphs into something greater, ever greater….

2008! A fresh year to begin whatever your heart desires, whatever your mind inspires. A new beginning…Speaking of desires, people seem to have so many of them. I know I do. I have more desires than I should have, and, at times, they seem to overwhelm me. I have physical desires, mental desires, spiritual desires, and, even desires I don’t know about quite yet….

What shall we do with all of these desires? Can we possibly fulfill each of them? Or is that part of the drive of life, that we are in a constant state of desire, that we are more motivated? I do not know, all I know is that when you think about it, we are all but submerged in desire…

Fulfilling desires can be challenging to say the least. As we visualize in our minds, and then set the thought into action, it often comes short of what we had imagined, which leads to a less than satisfying experience. This is true for romance, business, recreation, and, many other areas. You know what I am talking about: that vacation that you scrimped and saved for, did research on, found the best deal for your money, fantasized about, and, then you arrive to your destination and it is, well, a place from hell. You try to make the best of it, but, quickly become bored with the whole scenario, and, then so upset that you paid all of that moolah for this!

Each of us have been there, in many facets of life. Yet, on the flight home, we will be developing new desires and visualizing their outcome…

Desires and romance go hand in hand. We desire our intended in ways we cannot often describe. We fill our minds with fantasies of how we would show them the depths of our desire, but, when it comes down to it, it is rarely as good as the imagined enactment of said desire. Still, we attempt to make it work. We strive to provide some level of desire for our partner, which will be better, different, and more exciting than it was before. We aim to please, though often we are the ones who are disappointed because of our heightened expectations. We get lost in the fantasy and reality can really bite when it comes to fulfillment of that which lives in our minds…

We can make our desires a reality. How? By eliminating the fantasy parts which are too outrageous to be. By alleviating the stress of making it happen; that is by initiating the idea of the desire and letting it flow from there. When we are too expectant about the results of something, we get lost in the initiation process and we often miss out on the actual pleasure derived from the action. Does that make sense?

This is how it should work; that is not a guarantee, but, it should go like this: I decide that I want to make my partner weak with want of me. I have a whole night planned out. I will wear some really hot lingerie, my appearance will be to the nines, I will fix a dinner of his choice, with the lingerie on. I will serve it, we will eat, drink, and, be merry. Afterwards, we will both clean up the mess, partly so it is done faster. We will play around in the kitchen during the clean-up, like you know, just mess around, jokingly… When the mess is finished, we will go out onto the deck/patio/balcony and have a cocktail or two. There will be music in the background. We will gaze at the stars and talk a bit. Then, I will get up and go into the house, where I will start dancing. I will not look at him, but, will get lost in the music. I won’t notice if he is there or not, for a while. I want to really get into it, whether he is watching or not. I want to feel the feeling of desire escalating within me before I involve him. Hopefully, he will have been watching and will be feeling what I am feeling, BUT, I do not have to have him watching me in order for the fantasy to go as my mind has seen it, I DO have to get into it myself, prior to his participation. Do you see where I am going with this? Instead of relying on his participation up to this point, I am making MY fantasy work for me, and, when he does participate, it will be all the better…

Being free and easy in fulfillment relieves the stress of ‘what if’. When we just do what we have imagined without requiring externals to cooperate, then they can flow much easier, it is what fulfillment is all about. Begin with your own fulfillment and let that around you join in or lose out… It works, and, it is easier for it to escalate, as their is no pressure on the externals involved. Ok, it is like this; if you could do that vacation from hell all over, and, find ways to make it good, like exploring the area, or stay away from the parts which bring you down, you might find some great pleasure in the experience… I have been there, and, being the creative mind I am, I have found ways to make it as pleasurable as possible…

Yes, desire. We have so much desire, so much imagination, and, little idea of how to make it work, often relying on externals and other people to make it happen for us. If we could understand that it is our desire, and therefore, our place to fulfill it, it would turn out all the better; think?