KEEPING IT SOFT AND SEXY IN THE NEW YEAR…
A New Year is upon us, and, many of us are in relationships which have withstood another year of trials and tribulations. Congratulations for this, as relationships, especially in these uncertain times, are very difficult to maintain, or to keep interestingly alive…
In the coming year we will be exploring all the different ways one might keep the love flowing, and, the passion burning. You know, and I know, that there are millions of ways to do so, but, often when we think we want to do something unique, hot, or different, we draw a blank. Why this happens is a great mystery, but, it does, indeed happen…
Routine is much to blame for the troubles in relationships. We need routine and it is greatly a part of our lives, still, we fall into a rut, especially when we are very comfortable within the bounds of our relationship. No one is really to blame, it just happens, and, when it gets to be a rut the size of the Grand Canyon, we are sure to have some problems along the way…
Even breaking up the routine will take some routine to get it going well. For instance, date nights for couples; usually this is on Friday or Saturday night, which if you do it once a week, bi-weekly, or monthly, will become routine, soooooo, what can we do? Try to keep it from being a repeat of the last date night; such as one time go to a local club for dancing, one time go to dinner and a show, one time book a room at a premium rated hotel, one time go and have some fun, like playing pool, skating, or whatever you both like to do…
Other ways to shake up the nights is, after you make sure that after all the kids are gone to sleep, to slip into something sexy, and seductive. Perhaps give each other a massage, read to one another, watch favorite programs or movies, or many other options are at the top of your imagination…
Men should play as active a role in creating change and intrigue as well as women. You could take turns planning such nights, even down to the lingerie, clothes, or whatever. It should be inspiring, sensuous, and, fun for both. Neither person should feel obligated or pressured in doing anything they don’t want to do. So, you should sit down and discuss possible options, making sure to relay what makes you happy or not; that way it is going to happen more smoothly and will be much more exciting for each of you…
There are games you can play with one another; such as strip poker, dance chess, or any other game. Simply define some rules and go with it. I like playing cards and chess, and, each time my partner or I lose, we have to dance, each time removing one essential piece of clothing. It is fun, silly, and, very stimulating…
Don’t forget, laughter raises the sexuality of a person quite high, especially if they are laughing about the same thing; it is a shared time which makes the bonds of a relationship even stronger…
So, you see, here are just a few ideas and ways mentioned to keep the fires smoldering. I will be bringing to the forum as many as I can think of and discover, and, I am sure that in applying some, or most of them, that you and your partner will be all the closer in the coming year…
Happy New Year and keep it soft and sexy; may it be a great year for rediscovering what brought you together in the first place…
