MEN AND THEIR IDEAS OF SEXY….

I am in the company of men frequently, so, I have the opportunity to pick their brains a bit, and, to find out what they like most about women… Some of their answers are so typical that I just smile knowingly, and tell them that men are funny, predictable creatures; which they are, although, they are each different as well…

Ask men what they consider sexy and they usually give you a body feature. Then when you ask them besides body parts or features, they will tell you the way she carries herself. I then ask if they mean the way she carries herself as a person, or as a sexual character, to which they respond, “I suppose both.” Hmmmm, interesting..

Then, I will ask, “So which is more important, the characteristic of sexuality, or the personality itself?” Most guys will tell me that it would be nice if they were balanced. I then ask, “What if a woman doesn’t possess a sexual character, or if that character is not evident?” They say that this is not their kind of woman. Again, interesting…

It seems to me that an awful lot of men are involved with, or married to women who do not seemingly posses a sexuality of any sorts, but, since I am not directly involved, that is mere observation, so… Now, I do know some men who tell me that ALL women are sexy and beautiful. I can kind of relate to this, but, having known so many uptight prudes in my time, I have a hard time imagining that they have any sensual characteristics at all, but, I am a woman, and, cannot quite see from a man’s point of view…

I am sure you have all met those women who are so prudish that they are cold. Their lives do not seem to have much use for sensual pleasure. They would rather not see, hear, or talk of such things, and, they are impatient with people who are openly sensual…

Men’s favorite body parts or features? The lips, the breasts, the butt, the legs… Some mention hair and eyes, but, such are after the obvious favorites. And, just for the record ladies, their idea of a good looking body are way different than ours, though they sometimes correlate with ours… You know what I am talking about: the girl who seems shapeless and kinda plain, yet, all the guys she comes into contact with are like, “She is so hot!”… We are like, “Really?” “Yeah.”, they say… Hmmmmn, I just don’t see it… Oh well, what do I know, I am not a man…

As I have said before, sexy is attitude. It is confidence, and, the men I have talked to about this subject, which I do frequently, really love a confident woman, ESPECIALLY if she is attractive and dressed to entice. By that I do not mean slutty, I mean she knows how to dress to attract and hold attention. A certain style which captivates, along with a sense of how to hold that attention, and well, men are going to think she is hot…

In conclusion to this discussion, I would like to say this; we cannot change the way men see women, we cannot change their ideal of sexy, we cannot change what their ideal woman might be,and, vice versa, so, if you are lucky enough to have a man who feels that you are his ideal woman, and who finds you attractive, even beautiful, then, to me, it would seem that he deserves some healthy doses of sensuality to keep him ever intrigued, and, to keep him always wanting you. When we give, we get. When we feed the fire, we get heat. When we go beyond expected patterns, we create inspiration, and, when he is inspired, he is happy. When he is happy, so are we. Whatever it takes to keep the love alive and well is what it takes. Settling into dull routine can cause rifts in any relationship, but, when we make fantasies come to life, with mentality, clothes, hair, makeup, lingerie, or what have you, then routine melts away, leaving both wanting for more, which is an optimal way to live as a couple….