Keeping Romance Alive In Your Relationship (Part Two)

Now it would seem that, so often, it lies on the woman to make things better in a relationship, and, many times that is true. The assumption that women should do this, or that, might not seem to be fair, which, perhaps it isn’t, however, it is like this; we are usually the more assertive and the more mature in said relationship. This too, can be confusing, as men seem to have the upper hand, especially if they are, well, dominant, but, you know, and I know, that men are pretty much what they are, period. Yes, they have lots of room for improvement in many areas, but, let me put it this way to explain this dilemma: mens fantasies work overtime…

When a man feels that his woman is cold, or that she does not try to be all which she could be, that fantasy mode can become so heightened that he will begin to view his relationship with said woman as a comfort zone, but, his mind, eyes, and even body, might be very busy, due to the fantasy world which he escapes to… Even if a man truly loves his woman, if she is not as receptive or even, attractive as she once was, or could be, he will begin to withdraw into a world where, if he stays too long, might be very hard to beckon him back from…

There are those that would say that if a woman has to play out roles to keep her man, that he is exploitive of her, and, that if he isn’t satisfied with her as she is, then he is not worth the time anyway. This is, in my opinion, rather narrow minded. These same people might say that to make a woman feel like she has to make herself more attractive to keep the fires glowing is narrow minded and it might be, but, when we are dealing with a man’s psyche, there are many areas which are not going to correlate with a woman’s mentality or understanding, and, since women are the more flexible of the two, it seems to fall on the woman to keep love alive in most respects. Unfair you say? Rubbish you say?

This is exactly why relationships end up in dire straits. Over critical thought control. I don’t know about you, but, when I really love a man, I want him to want me, in every facet. Now, if that means that I take on the role of glamor girl, or sex kitten to keep him intrigued, keeping his thoughts of fantasy in my realm, then I will do so. Not only that, I like the game of enticement. It is challenging and fun. There is an art to seduction, especially seduction over time span, and, it is necessary to most relationships.

It need not be kinky or overly done. As I said, it is an art form. French women and Italian women are like this from a young age, they just have the art of seduction down to where it is never an issue or a dilemma, they just do it, and, while it might not be 100%, it works more than refusing to participate for the sake of feeling exploited, which, in my opinion, is stubbornness, and, will just create more problems.

Why can’t men do the same for us? Well, from my own experience, if you let a man live out his fantasies with you, you will find that he is willing to bring some interesting and pleasurable sides of his personality to the table, which is a win/win situation. Men love to role play as much as they like it from their woman, they just need permission of the silent kind to make it happen, they need the openness of their lovers mind, spirit, and, sensuality in order for them to bring their sensual character to the forefront.

All I am saying is that when a woman takes the initiative to please her man; when she goes beyond the norm to keep him in a state of desire, then, he too, will come to life with returned inspiration, and, in a marriage or a relationship, this is all good…