Keeping romance alive in your relationship (part 1)
So many people these days are struggling to keep their love alive. Too many are dissatisfied with their partners for many reasons, one of which is, that the combustion seems to have dwindled to the fire of a match.
This can cause problems in many other areas of a relationship, for the result of colder times is, withheld feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, insecurity, and other similar feelings of unworthiness…
Resentment seems to be the number one result of having a cool relationship. Sadly, it takes two to ignite or distinguish the fires of love. Still, each partner will blame the other for the lack of romance…
If I were in such a position being in a cold relationship, I would find ways to relight the fire. I would first rebuild the relationship on friendship, that the feelings of resentment have time to melt a bit. Secondly, I would flirt in every way I could, as unobviously as feasible. If there was a spark of interest, I would take that as a sign, therefore taking it to the next level. I would make sure that I looked great at all times, and, that I used my personality to re-attract my intended…
Without being overly obvious, you could implement lingerie into your mornings and nights, and, gradually add more and more suggestive pieces into the nights. Like in the beginning, you could don a satin, flowing robe with a nice chemise beneath; making sure that you looked your best in the morning. In the evening, you could wear a robe with a beautiful gown beneath, making sure that the robe is open that he might see how great you look. Of course, attitude has much to do with how you represent this new attempt at looking irresistible… You must act out the part of being the seducer, as subtlely as feasible…
Reconnecting is a matter of someone making the first move. If your love means enough to you, you will find ways to make it happen. This is one area where couples fail. Each are too stubborn or even embarrassed to make the first move after time has allowed distance in their relationship. That is a mistake, for it can only lead to more troubles and more insecurity…
There is an age old question worth mentioning here: Would you be happier with or without this person in your life? That should be the deciding factor here. If you decide that you would be much happier with them in your life, then, measures need to be taken to assure that they will, indeed, remain in your life. Do not let foolish, even childish stubbornness or spite last, as it will increase the wedge, making it all that more difficult to get back on track.
I know for sure that if you don’t do something, love will become more and more stagnant and you will eventually drift so far apart that it might be more than difficult to regain a level of shared love…
December 3rd, 2007 at 11:35 am
I love your article. I look forward to your future articles.
December 3rd, 2007 at 3:00 pm
Relationship does take effort on both parts and like you said in this article - the person you’re with has to be worth it. I love this blog and see how important it is to feel, look, and be sexy. This site really speaks to that - Thanks!!!
December 3rd, 2007 at 3:21 pm
This article is so concise. I lived this life of growing apart I know it all to well. You are absolutely 100% correct on how to bring the spark back into the marriage…it works.
December 3rd, 2007 at 3:36 pm
Sue, I thank you so much for your encouraging words. I welcome your presence here and hope to have lots of fun with this…
December 3rd, 2007 at 3:38 pm
Deborah, I am sorry that you had to go through that, I know that so many of us have had to or are doing so… Thank you for your visit and for your words of wisdom, that means much to this column; reader participation indeed!
December 3rd, 2007 at 4:10 pm
Thank you for your commentary LayDdee and yes, you are so right about feeling, looking and being sexy~ Which I know you are anyway!~ Glad you like the site, it is a great reference for being all that you can be… Hope to see more of you and thanks again, you rock~~~
December 3rd, 2007 at 4:51 pm
Very sage advice Lyn. You make some very valid points here and if followed would surely put things back on track. It’s well worth the try if you want to keep what you have.
December 3rd, 2007 at 5:42 pm
Thank you Comedy Plus, I appreciate the encouragement and the comment. It means so much to me for everyone to be a part of this, I thank you! People always need to work at their relationships, that is for sure. And those who have been in one for years often feel they are losing ground even if they aren’t so, any effort is worth the outcome I say… Again, thanks for the feedback… Take care…
December 3rd, 2007 at 5:46 pm
Ms Lynda,
What a wonderful article. I agree with the other commenters as well. Thank you!
December 3rd, 2007 at 10:50 pm
A very awesome article by a very awesome girl! You rock Lyn!!!
December 4th, 2007 at 4:08 pm
Thank you Jacer, I so appreciate the commentary and the encouragement… Thank you and Happy Holidays…
December 4th, 2007 at 4:09 pm
Thanks Roger, nice to see you here, I appreciate the visit and hope to see more of you… take care and have a great night/day…
June 8th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
This is so true: “If your love means enough to you, you will find ways to make it happen.”
If you don’t put in enough effort, you’ll loose something valuable to you, and wish you had tried harder.