Question – “What are some of the easy ways in which husband and wife can bond – without candles and wine and expensive lingerie?”

Easy ways? Well, it depends on what you mean by easy!

Bonding has nothing to do with candles, wine and expensive lingerie. It has to do with INTENT. In any given moment we are in one of two possible intents:

The intent to have control over getting love and avoiding pain.

The intent to learn about being loving to ourselves and to others.

Virtually all of us have learned many ways of trying to have control over getting love and avoiding pain. We learned these protective behaviors when we were children, and as adults we unconsciously continue these learned controlling behaviors, such as anger, criticism, withdrawal, resistance, or compliance. For most people, these protective, controlling behaviors have become automatic and habitual. As soon as any fear is triggered, we automatically protect against the fear by arguing, blaming, attacking, judging, shutting down, resisting, or giving in. In relationships, the fears of rejection and engulfment – of losing the other or losing ourselves – generally underlie our protective behavior.

In a relationship, if one or both partners are closed, protected, controlling, then they cannot emotionally connect with each other. No matter how much time they spend together with candles, wine or expensive lingerie, the connection will not be there when one or both are closed and protected. Ironically, when the intent is to get love or avoid pain, what we create is a lack of love and much pain. Our intent to control brings about the very things we are trying to avoid with our controlling behavior.

Our own intent is the one thing we do have control over. We do not have control over another’s intent to be open and loving, but we do have control over our own intent to be open to learning about what it means to be loving ourselves and to others. However, it takes both people being in the intent to learn for partners to emotionally bond.

If both are open to learning, then they will be emotionally available to each other and can bond with a touch, a smile, or a kind word. Bonding has to do with the energy between them, not with anything external like candles, and the energy comes from their intent. A controlling intent creates a heavy, dark, hard, closed-hearted energy, while the open-to-learning intent creates a light, soft, open-hearted energy.

The big challenge in relationships is to stay open to learning about loving. Because we automatically and unconsciously revert to our protective, controlling behavior in the face of fear, being open to learning needs to be a conscious choice. Developing the ability to make a conscious choice regarding your intent is a learning process. The hallmark of higher consciousness is being able to choose your intent each and every moment, even in the face of fear.

When relationship partners are both able to reliably choose to be open to learning about loving themselves and each other, they create a sweet and safe environment for their love to flourish. Then candles, vacations, and lingerie can enhance their experience with each other – the icing on the cake.

Easy ways to bond? Staying conscious and open to learning is not easy! The concept is simple, but doing it is far from easy. Yet devoting yourself to learning to stay open to learning in the face of fear may be the most fulfilling and rewarding experience in your life!

Generally the most important step when dating someone is the anticipation moment which refers to your own decisions and also the prepairing for dating someone. And as the most important aspects are also the most difficult ones, people generally leave them aside or neglect them and this always proves to be harmful for a relationship.

This is the exact purpose of this article: to make people understand the importance of this first prepairing for dating and to propose some ways to turn it into something unbelievable:

1) The right state of mind
Turning to optimism can have a decisive effect for meeting your soulmate. A self-assured person, a confident one generally attracts many persons as these are qualities sought by everybody. Shyness and pesimism give the impression of a troubled person who is not willing to meet someone not to mention dating that person. That is why you should always give the sensation of a person who is eager to live new experiences.

2) Beware of your priorities
You should always be sure of what you want: just dating or meet your soulmate?This awareness or clarity in your thoughts preserves an equilibrium between hope and fear. Decide what you most want from a long-term relationship: look over the ones who are not to be changed and the ones which can be compromised.

3) Always preserve your values
Become aware of your values which cannot be changed by any means. If you will try to forget about them for the sake of the person you are dating, you will encounter lots of problems as you can’t escape your personality and thoughts for a relationship. Then see if the relationship can respect these values or not.

4) That’s me, alright!
What is it that you want? What are your needs? What makes you happy? What are your ideals and purposes in life? What are your strong and week points?What are your fears? You should always be very specific about your options and needs so that you can get help from the people who love you. Being specific and showing exactly what you want can become like a magnet for possible ‘candidates’ not only because of your tastes but also because of your preciseness.

5) Being a little selfish can be a wonderful thing!
Do what you want and what makes you happy. This means taking care of yourself and paying a lot of attention to your person. If you are happy you are prone to make the others happy too.

6) Don’t say no to your friends!
Don’t refuse help from your friends but first make sure that they are real friends, not the type who would stab you behind your back. You could recognize your true friends by their opinions which might not always be similar to yours but are intended to help you. Knowing thet you have reliable friends can help you a lot with your attitude.

7)The outside mirror technique
Others can become your outside mirror. You can see many reflections according to your state of mind and not only that – You can become aware of your flaws and acknowledge your qualities. You can also observe if you are capable of making people laugh or happy and in this, you can find other qualities. Awareness enables choice.

Forget about the past!
Forget about your past and especially your past relationships as they can do harm to your present relationship. Sometimes memories should be forgotten as they can ensnare people. Nothing can be changed from your past so there is no time for regrets or “what if’s”. It is always beneficial to start over.

9) Everything is so fascinating about you!
It is natural that you always remember about the life you had before dating. Maybe this is what attracted the person you are dating: your relationship with your friends, your commitment and passions. Don’t try to change or forget about your old habits. They characterize you and what makes you fascinating.

10) So this is it!
It is claimed that relationships are what shapes our personality: all kind of relationships and experience as well.

Exotic lingerie are often characterized by sexy designs in the cut and form of the lingerie. They not only serve as mere undergarments or support for women. Instead, they also serve aesthetic purposes. They are the top choice when it comes to choosing lingerie for honeymoons.

No matter what height, weight, skin tone or hair color you have, there is an exotic lingerie in the market that perfectly suits your attributes. You just have to know the rules and use them to work for you in choosing your own exotic lingerie.

First, if you’re not so adventurous about trying a unique color, you can always go for red, black or white exotic lingerie. The fact that most exotic lingerie come in these colors means they are safe colors to wear. When it comes to material, you may choose lace, satin, silk, PVC, sheer mesh, velvet and even leather.

The most important thing you must remember when selecting exotic lingerie is to emphasize your assets. This is also a way of masking your body’s imperfections. For example, if you have large hips, avoid wearing exotic lingerie with fitted waistlines. Instead, go for those which have a straight cut. You may also conside avoiding waist cinchers and bustiers as they emphasize on the hip area.

Another example is if you have a huge belly. Again, don’t use exotic lingerie which accentuate the belly area. Mask it by turning the eyes to your hips, bottoms or breasts. Use exotic lingerie with fancy designs like thongs.

If height is a challenge for you, you can select certain styles to create illusions. For example if you’re short, stir away from exotic lingerie which are too long. Instead, go for gowns which have slits in the leg area. Such a design can make you look taller. The same is the effect of short baby dolls.

If you’re tall, you can cut your height by choosing exotic lingerie with a tie or lace around the waist. You can make your height work for you by choosing gowns or robes which are short in length, exposing your long legs.

How does an erotic massage with flavored or edible oil sound? It sounds very sexy to me. Just think how your lover would feel if you set up an evening of massaging and erotic touching. I know it would be like heaven to me. Think about it, he/she comes home from a hard days work and you have everything set up in the bedroom ready to go. The next thing you know is you are pleasing your lover, relaxing them with this sexy massage, not to mention the fact the whole idea is turning you on at the same time. Massage has a powerful effect on people. A sexy massage can relax someone, in turn having a more enjoyable sex life. If I had a hard day at work and came home and found my lover had an evening of massaging planned, I would be more relaxed, at ease and enjoy sex all the more.

There are a few different massage oils you can choose from. There are flavored ones like, strawberry champagne, cherry, vanilla, kiwi pineapple and peach. Then there are sensually flavored massage oils with three tongue pleasing flavors such as, strawberry champagne, vanilla and peaches and cream. Choose the flavors your lover will like or you can try something new. The variety is out there. You can pick your favorite flavor or spice it up a little and try mixing two. You never know the new flavor could drive your lover wild. Again ,there is nothing more pleasing than a sensual massage. Try it, I know you will like it and enjoy it!

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Where To Shop?

Shopping in retail stores can be difficult and uncomfortable at times. You can get the look and feel of the garment you are selecting for your sweetheart but you may be the nervous type and wind up selecting the wrong item. Sometimes salespeople will approach you and tempt you into buying something that may be inappropriate for your relationship. Online lingerie stores are the best, easiest and safest place to shop. Your purchase there is discreet and confidential and can be returned. Just be sure the store has a return policy that is acceptable to you.

Many of us get scared at the thought of asking someone on a date. The thought of getting rejected is often too much for us to handle. Unfortunately, this fear holds us back from experiencing life to its fullest.

If you are like most people, you commute to work or school several days a week. During the trip, there is always a chance of getting in a car accident and getting killed or seriously injured. Does that risk stop you? Of course not! Yet, most men and women fear asking someone out on a date, which involves much less risk.

Why are you fearful of asking someone out? It is probably because you lack experience. The best way to conquer your fear is to face it, and take action anyway. The first couple of times will be terrifying, but as you put this into practice dozens of times, asking someone out will be easy.� It helps when you look good and feel good about yourself.� For the ladies who like to dress really sexy, especially in a club environment, try our sexy leather and vinyl outfits.� They will give you the sex appeal that guys outwardly look for.

If you lack the courage to ask someone out right now, take baby steps to help overcome your fear. Say hello to a stranger, or just strike up a conversation with a neighbor you haven’t met yet.� You already look good with your sexy lingerie on, but now you have to show your personality.� Easy on the pick up lines, because in this society today, nearly everyone is used to them, and bored of them.

Where do you find a prospective mate? The possibilities are endless. Most of us spend a major portion of our time at work, so strike up a conversation with a cute stranger in the break room! Guys, if you are looking for an available female, join a dance class, a cooking class, or a yoga class where females are likely to outnumber males. If you are a female looking for a guy, take a computer class or a class on auto repair, and there will be no shortage of males. If you happen to like the same sex, read my previous advice in this paragraph, and pretend it’s opposite day!

Get to know the person before asking them out. When you do “ask them out”, don’t say “Will you go out with me?” Just see if they want to hang out with you. Plan something much more interesting than “a dinner and a movie”. If you need ideas, take them miniature golfing, shoot some pool, or race some go karts.

Another reason why men and women fear asking someone out is because of the awkwardness of that first date. Think of dating as simply getting to know someone. This will ease the pressure that you feel tremendously. Remember, first dates are interviews, you’re asking questions and wanting answers, mainly to see if you are at all alike, can have a good conversation, etc.� If the night ends in romance, excellent! If it doesn’t, either the time has not come yet, or you were simply weren’t right for each other.

So if you’re single, take a risk and start meeting people! You may meet a wonderful man or woman that is just right for you! Take advantage of this great advice and of our sexy lingerie to help you out!

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The stress of the Christmas season has many couples so frantic and busy they often don�t have time to enjoy some of the greater parts of their relationship. By bringing some creativity in the bedroom this holiday season with Christmas lingerie you can add to the experience. Whether it is a red and white fur-trimmed santa outfit or glittery green and red elf costume — or even just some Christmas-inspired sexy wear, the garment is sure to be a success.

Christmas lingerie and its novelty appeal allows couples to enjoy the holiday season more effectively. The creativity behind the lingerie gives an extra thrill in the bedroom. Couples can let the stress of the season go when enjoying the Christmas lingerie.

Give lingerie as a festive holiday gift

Christmas lingerie is a great gift to your lover, the excitement of receiving this gift also adds to the thrill of the experience when the lingerie is worn. This gift gives idea that all you want for Christmas is them — and that thought alone will give greater satisfaction to the both of you.

Whether it is given as a gift from your sexy loved one or bought for yourself to wear for your man, he is sure to love your choice. So between making those Christmas cookies, shopping and putting up that tree, drag your men into the bedroom and model your new Christmas lingerie for him. Hopefully you will then get everything you wanted for Christmas.

Do you ever wonder why a relationship can�t always be based on love? Don�t get me wrong, love is of the utmost importance in your relationship, but there�s more to the words �I Love You� than just saying the words. Saying and showing are completely different, so when you tell your lover that you Love them, are they going to believe you? How do you show them your feelings? Is it all words and no action, all action or no words, or a little of both? Hopefully, it�s a little of both, but words can get stale and repetitive, so it�s important that you show your lover how you feel.

Words can warm the heart, but so can sexy lingerie. A simple baby doll, fantasy costume or a sexy bra and panty lingerie set can help show them how you feel. This is especially helpful if you�re one of those people who can�t or chooses not to communicate your feelings with words, but with actions. Trust in Girlfriends Lingerie for your needs, because since 1999, we have made Fantasies a Reality, and will continue to do so as long as our loyal customers keep coming back to us. With the Holiday season coming up, there are so many different gift ideas to choose from, but don�t take my word for it, have a look around our site�.browse until you find something nice, and put it in our wish list, something that we provide to you for you to send to yourself as a reminder as to what you want, or give someone you are with a little �nudge� and e mail them your wish list. Hopefully, the hint will arouse their curiosity and you will be wearing the very item(s) that you decided on.

Remember, love is more than just being about words, it�s about action, and with all the sexy lingerie that we offer here at GFL, we hope that the �action� part of your relationship is fruitful and fulfilling!

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